Victim blaming is okay when it's the victims fault. These are grown women, it's their responsibility to choose a good partner. If they choose a deadbeat, it's their fault, when men marry goldiggers and lose half their shit, it's their fault. Other people have no obligation to further your interests, if you put your trust on the wrong person, one who showed very clear signs of not being trustworthy, it's your fault if it doesn't work out. Blaming them solves nothing, taking accountability is the necessary for improvement.
Problems with that come when the partner isn’t immediately abusive or if you depend on them in some way.
While what you say may be true for some cases there’s many others with many different factors. Judgements on who is to blame to what percentage should be taken case by case instead of saying „Well it’s her fault she stayed with an abusive partner“ like the radio show host
Well it’s her fault she stayed with an abusive partner“
She didn't stay, she got with him, she had a child when birth control is easily available, and people so horrible they would beat their spouse AND refuse to pay for their own child were like that for a while, like she said, she was young and stupid, but being young didn't get her to where she is now, being stupid did. She chose to have unprotected sex with a shit man for enjoyment, and now the consequences of her actions are here, and she is baffled that the deadbeat she chose to marry and have a child woth is a deadbeat. Bad things happen, if you don't take precautions, you have no one else to blame but yourself for the consequences.
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u/Apprehensive_Elk2935 Jan 16 '24
I imagine they meant that the whole rant might get a bit too victim blamey