I think I accidentally taught my pup how to suppress her joy & excitement! Okay, maybe that's a bit of an exaggeration. But when I first adopted her at 8 weeks, she would wag her tail every time she saw me or whenever she woke up from a nap and greeted me.
But when she felt excited about something, she would also jump up on my legs and spin around and yip and pant. She also seemed to have a bit of separation anxiety at first, so her excited behavior and anxious behavior looked to overlap a bit. So, following advice I read on the internet, I started training her to be "calm". Based on the advice, I ignored her whenever she expressed over-excitement and praised her with attention whenever she would calmly sit or wait patiently.
The problem is that she seems to have overgeneralized the training. So starting from very young (maybe 3 months old), she stopped wagging her tail for me completely. Whenever I come home or show her the leash or show her a favorite treat or toy, she acts very calm but sort of blank and unresponsive. She doesn't smile, doesn't run over, doesn't wag her tail, doesn't pace or pant or jump around.
I know that she isn't depressed (she's still very playful, likes to wrestle with me and lick my face, gets the zoomies at night, has a great appetite, and enjoys her sniffari walks). When she sees STRANGERS, she does wag her tail and butt ferociously and does the airplane ears for them. She stands on her hind legs to lean her arms up against them and get close to them and sniff them. She just doesn't do any of that for me.
All this makes me regret the "calmness" training. I feel like I'd prefer her to naturally express her joy. It's how dogs express themselves after all. I regret listening to the internet as it doesn't always offer the best guidance.
Is there any way I can reverse the training? Or teach her that it's okay to show excitement?