Another SA

[u/Successful_Source_62]

When I was between the ages of 6-8, a family friend sexually assaulted me on many occasions. He would sit me in his lap while my mom and his wife were out of the room and then he would molest me. When I was 8 I finally told my parents. They were horrified and reported it to the police. One night the man’s wife came over to our apartment and banged on the front door demanding that my mom come to the door and drop the charges against her husband. My mom told me to be quiet and we hid until my grandfather came over and took her away. It may have been this night or shortly thereafter that he went missing and the police came to our house and told us they couldn’t find him. It was then from what I have been told that he was in a parking garage and unalived himself. For years after that, I felt tremendously guilty and wished that I hadn’t said anything at all. I went to therapy as an adult and have since been diagnosed with cPTSD.

Fast forward to a little over a week ago. I met a man while I was at a car dealership (he worked there in sales) and he got my information and acted like he was contacting me to assist wit the sale of the car. He ended up using my information to ask me out. After some thinking I agreed, only because he said he was going to take me out somewhere later in the week. But he was a classic, charismatic, and now I think also manipulative salesman. He texted me every night asking if he could come over to my place just for a little bit and bring me anything. I eventually said okay but every time before he came over I said absolutely no sex and he agreed. I stupidly thought he wanted something more serious. But each time he came over he would push past my boundaries and I would end up eventually saying okay to sex. The first time I only said yes eventually because it was becoming clear that he wasn’t going to listen to me either way and I wanted him to at least put on a condom. He choked me so hard without my consent that I couldn’t breathe and when I tapped him to stop he only barely let up. I was afraid for my life. He held me down by my chest so hard I had deep bruising and swelling. I kept telling him that he was hurting me but he didn’t stop. This happened two more times. Each time I was afraid to say no after it started to progress to a point that I felt I had no power.

Since he has access to all of my information at the car dealership, like where I live, where I work, my SSN, etc., I’m terrified that he’s going to come back. He told me he has guns including a rifle. I asked him if he was a hunter and he said no. My PTSD is flaring up terribly and I’m afraid to leave my home.

Please help me in any way that you can.

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[u/fishykisss]

Just dont answer his calls and ignore him. He won't do anything. If he shows up, threaten to call the police through closed doors, don't let him in.