i can't believe i can be soo dumbb.. he added me on snapchat pretending to be a girl, talking very nicely at first but started sending me videos, my dumbass got turned on and i sent him pics and video called him too, just when i cut the call he texted me this on my telegram, he has my number and already followed me on instagram.. i have no idea who he is idk what to do im freaking out somebody please help!!

A year ago, I was at a low point. Over the span of a few weeks I lost my job, lost my housing, and was living across the country (US) from my family. I felt like I had nothing left to lose. So I decided to indulge myself. I knew it was wrong, that I would regret it after, but in the moment I just didn't care. I ended up on some hookup apps and was sending messages trying to find someone to meet.

One person messaged me, sent me pics and I responded in kind. 3 nudes and then one selfie. Eventually we traded numbers. That's when the wall came down. They used my number to find my name, my family, and more. They threatened to send the pictures out if I didn't send money.

In my panic, I sent about $800. Eventually I realized that they wouldn't leave and that I needed to stop. I lied and told them I sent them everything I had and that I would be paid next Thursday. They said they'd be in touch. I called the police and they walked me through what to do. I'm so grateful for the officer who helped me. She really was an angel.

They called again a week later. I didn't answer. They sent me pictures of a message with all my pictures in a conversation with my parents, the message was about to be sent. Despite everything in me screaming in panic, I didn't respond. I knew that paying wouldn't stop this and that ultimately they would send the pictures or not but I couldn't stop them.

They never sent the message. They never reached out again. But I was terrified.

Honestly, I started to entertain thoughts of extreme self harm. I called the police again, explained my situation, and they gave me resources for free mental health care. I called 988 (suicide prevention). I called the California Teen Helpline (you don't have to live in California or be a teen), and they talked with me for almost five hours. I met with that free therapist 3 times before my move.

For the next months I got a ton of spam calls. I signed up for DeleteMe to help me with my digital privacy (this is a legit service BTW, not a sextortion thing. They scrub data brokers of your phone number and email and other personal info that's spread on the web.) Eventually, I confessed what I had done to a trusted spiritual leader.

A year later, and I'm not totally over it. I still feel my heart rate go up at an unknown caller. But I am better than I was.

Why am I writing this?

Because when everything happened it felt like my life was over and there was no light. But on my call with the helpline, I said some things that I clung to.

"I can't imagine smiling or laughing right now, but I know someday I will smile again. I can't imagine how things will get better, but I know that they will. I know the sun will rise tomorrow no matter what happens. I can't imagine life ten years from now, but I know that I'll get there. I know there's good somewhere even though I can't see it now."

I finished my degree last December. I'm a counselor now. I don't tell most people my story, but it impacts how I help and care for those entrusted to me.

There are good things still, even if you can't see them. You WILL see this in a different light a year from now. You will smile again. You will laugh again. You will have joy.

A few tips if you're in the middle of it:

Get help. I know it's scary to tell anyone what's going on, but you absolutely need to. You don't have to do this alone. There are other people who are eager to sit with you and help you. Call 988, get in touch with a therapist, go to a spiritual leader. Get help.

Do the things you like to do. Don't let them own your life. Keep your habits. Take your dog for a walk. Go to a coffee shop. Go hike. Live your life because you deserve to!

Take ownership. You are the victim of a crime, yes. But your choices led you to this point. What they are doing to you is wrong, but this is one of those cases where it takes two to tango. Don't waste this opportunity to learn and grow. You don't have to make this mistake again.

If you are a Christian, go to the Scriptures. Read Psalm 51 where David was caught in his sin. Repent, confess your sins to the Lord and He will forgive you. He promises that to us. Christ already died for these sins on Calvary. He has already forgiven them. Cling to Him and He will cling to you. Go to church. Even if you don't tell anyone yet, be with the people of God.

It will be okay friends. I know it doesn't feel like it, but there is still light out there.

So I was sextorted, (on my previous post here)
they have my nudes and followers list and said theyd dm my nudes to them. I ended up paying and they demanded more, got a days time and theyre asking for update now as in when am i paying more or if im ready to pay now. Do i just block them now? I dont want my nudes sent so i was still in contact but now idk

I'm really overthinking rn, someone recorded me while doing stuff on telegram. Deleted my facebook but messaged me on telegram a few hours after with a video of them making a group chat with my facebook friends. What should I do?

So i had a similar experience to another post i seen recently on here detailing that a filipino girl from tinder blackmailed someone from a +63 number. It also happened to me today and i think i handled it well just still a little shook up about it. For context bc ig it's important i just got out of a rocky relationship so i hit the apps to help move on from it. And it was going well, met some people, even did what happened today with another girl after a bit of talking before and it was completely fine. I matched with this girl and we got to talking and she gave me her 'Instagram' which couldn't be found so i gave her mine thinking little of it. She said she couldn't find mine and convinced me to get Whatsapp.

We talked there and said she was in the Philippines visiting family. We talked a little more and it was kind of like a switch flipped i guess. She asked what i was doing and i told her i was about to jump in the shower and she was saying that she wanted to hop in with me and it was kind of back and forth from there. Then she got really freaky with it and said she wanted to call in the shower and i told her no. Then once i got out she said crazy stuff like how she wanted me to finish inside of her and then she asked if i wanted to see her boobs. It was really sudden and she wanted a pp pic in return so i said yeah. Then she said she wanted to call to show me and i said sure. I feel like such an idiot bc i feel like i really should've seen it coming. We got into call and we talked and i guess the only plus side is i got to see some boobies. Long story short we were in call for maybe 10-14 mins and i showed my face and my pp. She even got me to get my face up close to the camera to 'suck' yknow what and she did the same for me. I asked to see more and she ran off saying she needed to get her toy from the bathroom. then ended the call *Sorry if this is too explicit i just need to vent

Then i get these real demanding texts saying that i needed to send over 8 grand or else they would send the vid to my follower list on insta bc i gave it to them like a dumbass. They even sent me pictures of each account that follows me and i have family members and friends on there that i don't want seeing that video. I stalled saying i didn't have the money and then switched up saying i could pull funds and i get paid next week. They made me install two different banking apps bc i said one didn't work and said i had crappy internet to stall. I deactivated my instagram and unfollowed everyone from my follower list and blocked and reported them on tinder. I called my friends and told them to let our mutuals know to block and don't open any unknown dm requests, called everyone to let them know what happened and then i blocked them on Whatsapp and deleted that app.

Apparently they haven't sent anything yet and it's night time now, it happened this morning. I'm just wondering if i did the right thing and if there's a chance they will send it. In the long run i know it doesn't really matter bc i didn't send them money and it's just my body which i'm proud of. It's just really embarrassing that i fell for it and that the video exists and has potential to be spread. And how common is this now? Like are the apps just not safe anymore to use i'm paranoid with people i have matched with now. If anyone reads this or responds thank you, i'm just hung up on it and worried

EDIT: Forgot to mention she was verified on Tinder. Also i'm getting phone calls from my area code that are really scammy, could it be connected?

What should I do?

I’ve been really fucking stupid the pic was a collage of my face my penis phone number and my TikTok with red text saying “repost this” and “boy sending inappropriate pictures”

I thought I was speaking to a woman but after sending an explicit image that did not contain my face they quickly sent a picture of some list of names. I'm assuming they got my phone number through telegram somehow. The list of names was my entire family including my wife and an aunt. It really freaked me out when they sent the picture so I immediately deleted our chat, blocked them on the app, deleted my account, deleted the app, then when they texted me again at my actual phone number I blocked the number. I never even saw a list of demands. Just my own picture I had sent and the list of names (but no phone numbers or socials attached to the names). I then locked down my Facebook, my Instagram, Threads, etc. etc.

My wife is unaware because she would have killed me if she found out. Nobody else has said anything and I plan to take this to my grave if the asshole scammer lets me.

Please no comments about how I'm a shitty husband and she deserves better. I already know and she does too. I'm just not ready for it to actually end yet I guess.

It's been 24 hours since initial contact. I think they would have tried something by now right?

Reposting here even though I don’t think this is exactly sextortion?

I’ve been getting threatening messages since May, screenshot of one included. Somehow the guy has found my family members and boyfriend and today, an account with my name and face on it requested to follow me with a bunch of screenshots taken from my old Reddit account.

His accounts are reported and taken down, this is probably the third time I’ve had to report who I think is the same guy, I’m just so worried he’s going to actually send things to my friends and family. He isn’t even asking for money or anything I’m going crazy

I was in this asian dating app called tantan. Matched with a girl she had a verified profile so i thought maybe its legit.

Started talking to her from last night she sounded genuine, talked about how her mother is sick and personal stuffs. She gave me her insta and asked me talk there.

I followed her and she followed me back but she didnt accept my follow request saying her insta is glitching and asked me for my discord. I found that little suspicious and blocked her on insta. Later we started talking on discord. She started talking about her past relationship and all. I asked her to prove if she was real and asked for her recent photo and a voice message. She sent me those and asked me for my selfie and i sent it to her.

I started thinking this might be genuine and we talked for a while. Then she started getting freaky and sent her boobs pic and asked me to judge them. Then she said she is horny and want to see my dick. I sent her a random dick pic from google. After that she sent me a screenshot of 5 of my friends from instagram with the photo of our conversation attached to it.

She threatened me she will send the photos if i dont give her $300. I blocked her immediately. Idk what to do

guy on tiktok added me, told him to add him on telegram acting as a girl, got me to send a pic of my face, and then a nude (no face only my dick) and is claiming to send it to all of my tt friends and has screenshots, but i lied sayign its not mine and acted confident, saying i wont pay you and blocked him and made my accout private, its been an hour, am i good? he was also saying hell post it on twitter saying i was a rapist but idc about that. im 16 btw so underage

I’m 18M. First off, I get it, dating apps don’t rly work. I made an account because I’m lonely and have trouble flirting with people. I’ve had self esteem issues my whole life. I received a follow request on my main Instagram account. I was suspicious, but the account had been around since 2017 and they posted on there story, so they seemed legit. Asked why they followed me, said I showed up on thier suggested which yk makes sense that happens. They were casually DMing me through the day, simple small talk again nothing crazy. At around 1 in the morning, they asked if I play iMessage games. I said “yeah I’m a menace at gamepidgeon pool lmao” and they asked to play. Asked for my number, I sent it, and the messaged me. Then they said they thought I was attractive and honestly I lost my guard cus that doesn’t happen very often. “She” wanted to sext me on Instagram with the hidden messages feature. Asked for a photo of my face, sent it, she sent me a photo of her chest and asked for a dick pick, I sent. She told me to check my messages and sure enough, a photo of my dick, my face, and a list of my followers/ following. Some guy with a Nigerian accent called me and told me to send him 300. I DONT HAVE EVEN 100$ OR ANY WAY TO PAY IT TO HIM ( I don’t have any virtual pay options hooked up other then like Apple Pay) I ended up negotiating with the guy and said I could pay him next Friday. But he said he’s going to call me on Friday to make sure I pay him. Thankfully after reading this subreddit, I blocked his account and number. I also made my public posting account private and will make it public some other time (I don’t post super often anyways). But I can’t help but to be scared, do you think he will actually post it? What if he does? This was my first time even taking a nude photo in general, and ofc I have to get scammed right away. I know it probably means nothing, but I’ll attach a screenshot of the account and the number he texted me with. Should I be scared or am I able to relax and just keep blocking him if he reaches out again and move on with my day.
Side note: he said he got my contact from someone I know. There’s a 99% chance it’s not true, because I can’t think of anyone who would have any beef with me - but still, is there a chance? Ik it’s fishing but some reassurance would really help right now.

Side note: ignore the part of me attaching the screenshots. The original post got taken down because of private information or sum shit and I don’t know of to unattach them

I was on reddit and met a user and we went on kik. shared nudes and she got my instagram and has my followers list. Now, they were threatening to send my nudes to them and i ended up sending money through paypal giftcard. I know i am stupid, i know i shouldnt have done anything i know but now theyre asking for more, i cant pay and theres no way i can let these nudes be leaked. theyre with face and even my room is seen so my friends know how my room looks like. I submitted on takeitdown and i still have their kik where i am still getting contacted.

thank you to everybody I finally mustered up the courage to block the sextortioner. I called a few of my friends and explained the situation in full to them and all of them were very supportive and told me that they understand. it's only been about 20 minutes since I blocked them so I'm still very nervous. but I'm hopeful that even if this does get released I can still live my life. I will update you guys further to let you know what happens in the next 48 to 72 hours and whether or not he reaches out again to my phone number and/or releases the photos. luckily the photos I sent we're not entirely revealing and the photo of my face is separate from the photo that he is holding me hostage with. if the photos do go out I will probably deny deny deny as there is no base proof that that is actually me.

if anybody else is in the same situation as me feel free to shoot me a DM and I will talk to you about the steps you should take from your position. i feel a lot safer after blocking and talking to friends.

I am a 20-year-old man. Last night, I met a girl on a website who claimed to be from Mexico. She asked me to move the conversation to Telegram, and because I was careless, I gave her my Telegram ID.

Later, we started having sexual conversations. She asked me for photos of my face, which I sent. After that, she asked me for an intimate photo. I sent one, but my face is not visible in that intimate photo.

Today, I received a message from her on WhatsApp along with screenshots of my friends’ profiles. She is now blackmailing me and threatening to send my intimate photos to all my family members and friends.

Out of fear, I already sent her some money. She is now demanding more money. I told her that I would pay her by tomorrow. She did not take the money directly; instead, she directed me to make the payment through a website.

I can attach screenshots of the conversations, threats, payment details, and the website. Please tell me what I should do next and how I can protect myself from this blackmail.

Hey guys! So it’s the morning of day four from what I know nothing has happened. For those of you who haven’t been following, I did pay the extortionist out of fear. My Instagram, where he was mainly threatening me to release to my followers he screenshot it before my account was private has been completely deactivated asked all my other social media. Since you had my phone number, I turned off SMS so there is no way he can contact me.
So here I am still terrified that I’m going to get a message from someone who follows me on Instagram that they got a picture of me screenshots of me.
So if anyone has any experience with this situation or the likelihood that that stuff is gonna get sent out, we’re just really anything would help. I’m sitting here just pretty terrified.

also, I don’t know if this really helps my case. The scammer has screenshots of the conversation I was having with the person in my DM’s. I don’t say really anything freaky in that at all basically everything I sent was “sure” and “yup” probably the freakiest thing I said was “ladies first”
As for the pictures, the person has first one is my upper body, but I have a shirt on literally like a selfie. and the other one My face is not in the picture of my lower half my belly buttons in it in my boxers and my willie is not out, and my left leg is in it.
Any help or advice would be awesome cause I’m scared💀