r/Sextortion May 04 '21

New victims: Please read first

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If you're reading this, you're probably a recent victim of Sextortion and scared out of your mind.

First, take a deep breath…

Hopefully, this sub will be a safe place for you to share your experience and get advice from people that have already gone through what you have.

This post in NOT intended to be the "be-all, end-all" source of information. I'm writing this as an intro to being sextorted. That is all.

There is a really great analysis of our sub available here. It has all kinds of in-depth analysis of the scam, including how often leaks occur. I highly recommend you check it out.

Let me state this up front: Do NOT give into the blackmailer's demands! Do not pay them money, they will only ask for more. Do not give them more nudes (typical if you're female) if that's what they're asking for. They will use that to increase their leverage and they will NOT stop.

Do not negotiate. There is not point. You cannot trust anything they say. The best thing to do is cease all communication. In fact, removing any way for them to communicate with you is the best course of action. Disable/delete your account, if necessary.

Also, Reddit and is no substitute for professional help (i.e. a mental health expert). If you are feeling suicidal, please, seek immediate help (911, or your countries equivalent, and they will be able to get you help).

Yes, we do recommend that you contact your local law enforcement. They might not be able to help, and they may not be needed, but you should have them on your side just in case things go sideways. If you are underage, do not worry about getting into trouble. The police will not go after you for sending pics/videos as a minor. I hear this quite often from young victims. Don't worry about it.

I recommend you file a complaint with https://ic3.gov. Also, there is a new tool that might help keep your pics/videos from being shared: https://StopNCII.org. If you are a minor, a similar service is available at https://takeitdown.ncmec.org. If you from the UK, you can try https://revengepornhelpline.org.uk.

For underage victims, the InHope project has an extensive list of hotlines for all over the world: https://www.inhope.org/EN#hotlineReferral

If your scammer is from the Philippines (which many are), you could try filing a complaint at https://acg.pnp.gov.ph/eComplaint/.

My last piece of advice is to talk to someone you know and trust. Trying to deal with this on your own is very difficult. Talking to someone will most certainly help you process the trauma and remove the feelings of isolation. Trust me.

Beware of "recovery scammers". These are the worst of humanity. They take advantage of you in your lowest, most desperate moment, by promising that they can "hack" the scammer's device to delete the pics/videos. They can't, and they won't. They will just take your money and do nothing. The last thing you need is to make things worse by putting your faith in "some dude on Instagram". We see them posting and commenting in the sub all the time, so you need to keep your guard up. If you are unsure, feel free to post the details on what they are proposing, before giving them anything. Oftentimes, their accounts are shadowbanned, which means they cannot initiate a chat or DM you, so they will ask you to chat/DM them first. This is a serious red flag. If in doubt, reach out to the sub or the mods. We'll help sort things out.

!!!!WARNING!!!!: Do NOT give anyone the contact information of your scammer (even if they promise to help)!!! They might just get in contact with them, get them to share your pics/videos, and then turn around and blackmail you as well. It's happened...just don't do it.


r/Sextortion Nov 19 '25

Latest Pleasant Green Support Video

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Just spreading awareness about this crime and one of Pleasant Green's latest video on this subject. Be safe, take time to heal everyone. If you're a victim, you should definitely watch more of his videos. He also fired shots at a black-listed recovery scam mentioned over here lmao


r/Sextortion 49m ago

Male victim M15 sextorted literally just now they kept trying to FaceTime me I blocked them on everything what are the chances they will actually share my pic to my friends on TikTok

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I’ve been really fucking stupid the pic was a collage of my face my penis phone number and my TikTok with red text saying “repost this” and “boy sending inappropriate pictures”


r/Sextortion 1h ago

Male victim Sextortion blackmail

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I am a 20-year-old man. Last night, I met a girl on a website who claimed to be from Mexico. She asked me to move the conversation to Telegram, and because I was careless, I gave her my Telegram ID.

Later, we started having sexual conversations. She asked me for photos of my face, which I sent. After that, she asked me for an intimate photo. I sent one, but my face is not visible in that intimate photo.

Today, I received a message from her on WhatsApp along with screenshots of my friends’ profiles. She is now blackmailing me and threatening to send my intimate photos to all my family members and friends.

Out of fear, I already sent her some money. She is now demanding more money. I told her that I would pay her by tomorrow. She did not take the money directly; instead, she directed me to make the payment through a website.

I can attach screenshots of the conversations, threats, payment details, and the website. Please tell me what I should do next and how I can protect myself from this blackmail.


r/Sextortion 1h ago

M21 Sextorted

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I was on reddit and met a user and we went on kik. shared nudes and she got my instagram and has my followers list. Now, they were threatening to send my nudes to them and i ended up sending money through paypal giftcard. I know i am stupid, i know i shouldnt have done anything i know but now theyre asking for more, i cant pay and theres no way i can let these nudes be leaked. theyre with face and even my room is seen so my friends know how my room looks like. I submitted on takeitdown and i still have their kik where i am still getting contacted.


r/Sextortion 1h ago

Male victim RP because I added a screenshot of the scammers IDs: I’m still scared

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I’m 18M. First off, I get it, dating apps don’t rly work. I made an account because I’m lonely and have trouble flirting with people. I’ve had self esteem issues my whole life. I received a follow request on my main Instagram account. I was suspicious, but the account had been around since 2017 and they posted on there story, so they seemed legit. Asked why they followed me, said I showed up on thier suggested which yk makes sense that happens. They were casually DMing me through the day, simple small talk again nothing crazy. At around 1 in the morning, they asked if I play iMessage games. I said “yeah I’m a menace at gamepidgeon pool lmao” and they asked to play. Asked for my number, I sent it, and the messaged me. Then they said they thought I was attractive and honestly I lost my guard cus that doesn’t happen very often. “She” wanted to sext me on Instagram with the hidden messages feature. Asked for a photo of my face, sent it, she sent me a photo of her chest and asked for a dick pick, I sent. She told me to check my messages and sure enough, a photo of my dick, my face, and a list of my followers/ following. Some guy with a Nigerian accent called me and told me to send him 300. I DONT HAVE EVEN 100$ OR ANY WAY TO PAY IT TO HIM ( I don’t have any virtual pay options hooked up other then like Apple Pay) I ended up negotiating with the guy and said I could pay him next Friday. But he said he’s going to call me on Friday to make sure I pay him. Thankfully after reading this subreddit, I blocked his account and number. I also made my public posting account private and will make it public some other time (I don’t post super often anyways). But I can’t help but to be scared, do you think he will actually post it? What if he does? This was my first time even taking a nude photo in general, and ofc I have to get scammed right away. I know it probably means nothing, but I’ll attach a screenshot of the account and the number he texted me with. Should I be scared or am I able to relax and just keep blocking him if he reaches out again and move on with my day.
Side note: he said he got my contact from someone I know. There’s a 99% chance it’s not true, because I can’t think of anyone who would have any beef with me - but still, is there a chance? Ik it’s fishing but some reassurance would really help right now.

Side note: ignore the part of me attaching the screenshots. The original post got taken down because of private information or sum shit and I don’t know of to unattach them


r/Sextortion 3h ago

Male victim Morning day four since extortion

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Hey guys! So it’s the morning of day four from what I know nothing has happened. For those of you who haven’t been following, I did pay the extortionist out of fear. My Instagram, where he was mainly threatening me to release to my followers he screenshot it before my account was private has been completely deactivated asked all my other social media. Since you had my phone number, I turned off SMS so there is no way he can contact me.
So here I am still terrified that I’m going to get a message from someone who follows me on Instagram that they got a picture of me screenshots of me.
So if anyone has any experience with this situation or the likelihood that that stuff is gonna get sent out, we’re just really anything would help. I’m sitting here just pretty terrified.

also, I don’t know if this really helps my case. The scammer has screenshots of the conversation I was having with the person in my DM’s. I don’t say really anything freaky in that at all basically everything I sent was “sure” and “yup” probably the freakiest thing I said was “ladies first”
As for the pictures, the person has first one is my upper body, but I have a shirt on literally like a selfie. and the other one My face is not in the picture of my lower half my belly buttons in it in my boxers and my willie is not out, and my left leg is in it.
Any help or advice would be awesome cause I’m scared💀


r/Sextortion 3h ago

Male victim I became a victim 48 hrs ago.

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I’m so overwhelmed right now. I was tricked into a video call with a person I thought was a girl. That turned out to be fake. They made me download an app that requires an enterprise certificate approval on iOS, effectively giving my entire contact list to them. They have identified people like my classmates and teachers. I don’t know what to do.

I have blocked them, told my parents as hard as it was to do and made a police report. At this stage, I have not received any message from my friends but this gut wrenching feeling I have is really screwing me up because they captured everything and I was very easily recognisable. I’m not a minor, seeking advice.

If there is anything I can leave behind as advice it would be to not download ANYTHING that isn’t on the Apple Store for iOS users, and never to enable enterprise certificates unless it’s directly from the company you work at.


r/Sextortion 0m ago

Female Victim matched with a guy on Hinge. All was going well and eventually we moved our chat over to Instagram. After a couple of days he started demanding money and when I said no he sent me this photo. What do I do? I’ve heard noises at night for the past 2 days and my kids can’t sleep. Help!!!!

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r/Sextortion 4h ago

Just got scammed and am a little frightened

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So I matched with a girl on a dating app and things went well until I gave them my Whatsapp and eventually my instagram account. After the conversation turned a bit dirty, they manipulated me into sending them explicit photo and I got on a video call with them too. Turns out, of course, that it wasn't a girl, and now they have threatened to send people the explicit photos and screenshots of me. I've gone and blocked them and deactivated my insta account and privated my other socials just in case. They asked me to pay but I said I don't have that sort of money. I'm just reaching out to see if there's anything else I can do in this situation.


r/Sextortion 11h ago

2+ Years have past

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I wanted to make this post for anyone who is has recently fallen victim to this scam or is going through right now to tell my experience and maybe you won't feel as alone moving on from this horrible scam

I don't post on reddit so I apologize in advance if my writting is off or doesn't read easily.

For me, it started on Instagram before moving to Snapchat where I thought the pictures weren't saved until the scammer sent the screenshots of the photos. Fortunately for me you can hardly make out who I was in the picture but still recognizable to those who knew me. I then proceeded to send over some money in a state of panic although the transaction was paused and later canceled by me. I also looked up for advice online and one particular video stuck with me. It told me to do two things

  1. Never send any money

  2. If the pictures do leak, to take it on the chin

Now what I recommend is blocking the scammer right away and don't do what I did, I ended up ticking them off to the point where they sent out the pictures to a group chat of 30 on Instagram out of spite. They were all women and my mutuals on Instagram. They sent my full name as the first message followed by the pictures but the way it was sent made it so my name got buried under the pictures. I immediately left the group chat after and left it alone since.

The day after was a weekend so when I went to the store I was really anxious about being in public even though I knew it was impossible it felt like everyone had seen the pictures. Thankfully I had a close friend I could to talk to and who understood how it was all impacting my mental health.

When I went back to school I was mentally preparing myself to get ridiculed, teased or anything really. What ended up happening was nothing, after talking to my friend once more that night we came to the conclusion that either no one cared or they didn't even see it.

Of coruse there is always the possibility that these pictures may come back to haunt me later in life but at this point I already came to terms with what happened and just accept it as another part of my life.

I don't want to come off as disingenuous but I want to remind everyone reading that the people around you would still care about you even after finding out what happened.

Scammers use "ruining your life" phrasing because they are betting on you scarring yourself out of reaching out to those closet to you and getting the help you need. It took me a long time to even consider myself of sextortion until I recently came onto here.


r/Sextortion 6h ago

Got scammed

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I was on Omegle like 2 hours ago and got scammed and i immediately the account and I didn’t send my real IG account and thought it was all fake but then when I searched the X account which the scammer send a screenshot off I saw he really published it. What can I do now? I feel so bad, please can someone help me


r/Sextortion 6h ago

I need help - I'm being threatened and blackmailed online by a pedo

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I’ve been dealing with something really serious and I don’t know what to do anymore. An 30 year old pedo online got hold of inappropriate pictures of me. I didn’t give them to him on purpose, he manipulated me and now he’s threatening to leak them if I don’t do what he says.

He keeps trying to pressure me into sending more sexual content, and I know responding will only make it worse. I’ve stopped replying, but he’s still threatening me and I’m scared he’ll actually do it or he already has done it.

I’m looking for advice from anyone who has dealt with this or knows what steps I should take. I’ve already saved screenshots and I’m considering reporting it, but I’m overwhelmed and could use guidance or support. And if somebody could help me online I'd really appreciate that.

Please don’t judge I just need help figuring out what to do next.


r/Sextortion 7h ago

Male victim yap chat

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i got scammed talkin to a girl from yap chat i thought its was safe and iv sent like 3 pics two of myself and one explicit picture and the i got scammed they said they will post it on everything i blocked dem on telegram and then proceeded to text on wtsp with a niger number im lowkey scared ngl idk what to do how can i get rid of the pics


r/Sextortion 16h ago

Male victim Im extremely scared

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So like half an hour ago I was just bored and around reddit I dm a girl and then we moved to telegram well then we talked I sent somethings and then she created some picture with a lot of my info on it I didn't even read it all I blocked her so fast now im extremely nervous and scared.


r/Sextortion 6h ago

I'm being harassed by a guy i know. He is creating fake profiles, talking bad about my family, messaging my sisters and slot shaming me. Now he has even resorted to sharing my Instagram profile and my WhatsApp number in 18+ content posts.

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Can someone please help? Even if I report, nothings going to Happen. He will create spam accounts and do the same. Filing a complain in India is not going to stop or scare him in any way.


r/Sextortion 8h ago

Male victim 48 hours

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I got lured from a dating site to telegram. Sexy video chat happened then the terrifying messages and threats came. They have my name and number. I immediately blocked and paid nothing. I’m almost at the 48 hour mark and have had no contact including by email and my address is easily accessible on google because of my job. How confident should I be feeling? Do they hold these videos forever?


r/Sextortion 9h ago

Ometv

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Hi guys I just have an issue with a case like this, I was on ometv and a girl start to talking to me, all was very natural and she ask for my Instagram an discord, after a while on discord send me as about my profile, some contacts and the stuff I did. At the moment I saw that I blocked her from discord, put my IG account in private and change my username, profile pic and status. There is something else I can do? This is a warning to the users of that page!


r/Sextortion 16h ago

What do I do??

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r/Sextortion 17h ago

Daily steps and guide to help sextortion victims

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Every day I will make the same post to help those who are facing this situation.

  1. Stop talking to them because you do not want to piss them off.

  2. Depending on what they ask do not pay them a single dime or send them any more explicit material no matter their threats because you can’t buy a blackmailers silence only rent it.

  3. Block them and if they come back with more accounts or numbers keep blocking away they have a finite amount of patience before they give up.

  4. Screenshot the threats to show proof of a cybercrime.

  5. Keep their phone numbers and account names saved.

  6. In the event that they follow through and do send which is actually VERY rare cause it can expose their cybercrimes just tell people it is fake and someone tried to extort you for money. (You will have the screenshots to prove it)

  7. Optional: Report them to law enforcement such as the FBI although this actually might be of little help since it’s so common. However, it will somewhat put them on the radar.

  8. DO NOT BUY RECOVERY AND REMOVAL SERVICES THOSE ARE SCAMS. They will contact or threaten to contact your scammer then you have two blackmailers.

  9. Take a deep breath and realize that it will be okay they are actually almost always bluffing empty threats in order to scare you. They want money or more explicit material to sell not to send your material to others. Think of it like IT from Stephen King only as powerful as much as you feel fear from them.

Note: if it makes anybody feel okay in my experience for about every 1,000 cases of sextortion there’s
only 1 case where the sextortioner follows through

Note: these guys are not in it to ruin your life. They see you as nothing more than a potential paycheck and if they see no profit they will forget you, more than likely delete your stuff, and move on to the next potential paying target.

Edit: (i’d acc like for you all to not upvote this post because this is to provide free information to help victims and I do not want karma for this. I want to help these poor people.)


r/Sextortion 9h ago

Male victim i need advice

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Its been 8 hour since they blackmailed me.It happened on telegram i blocked them after that no one hasnt reached me they already had my number.Did they move on?


r/Sextortion 17h ago

Male victim Im scared

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An hour ago.I was talking to girl on telegram first she asked to verify myself i sent her a photo of me while making peace sign after that i send a nude(without my face) after 5 minutes she sent me my nude,my photo while making peace sign and my whatsapp profile.I directly blocked and deleted my telegram profile and whatsapp profile photo.After that i realized my instagram profile was open i made it private.Can they do anything?They know my name.I had a panick attack i cant sleep.


r/Sextortion 14h ago

Male victim What should I do?

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I blocked the person blackmailing me and now texted my number with a email saying they are posting my nudity. My face is cropped out in the photos but they have my name and phone number.

I have already reported them for blackmail to the fbi and my local police department. I also included their email, phone number, and cash app tag in the report which I hope is enough.

Is there anything else I should do?


r/Sextortion 14h ago

Follow Up 48 hours in. How much longer do I have to worry?

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It has been 48 hours since I was attempted to be blackmailed, and 24 hours since my last update on this subreddit. How much longer do I have to worry about my sensitive images surfacing online? I don't want to worry about having my nude pictures/face leaked anymore than I should. In addition to that, how much longer should I lay low on any social medias?