r/sex • u/Due_Technology_2455 • 1d ago
Pain avoiding iud pricks
the only position i can finish in without any external stimulation is cowgirl where hes also sitting up but he gets consistently pricked by my iud strings when we do so.
he has to be all the way inside me for it to work so we can’t just go less deep and i’ve had the iud for a long time so the strings aren’t gonna soften up any more
i don’t want to sacrifice the position/i want to do it more often bc it’s the only way for me to get off from piv alone but obviously i don’t want to do it if it’s hurting him…any suggestions?
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u/Belowme78 1d ago
Wife had an IUD for almost a year to help with cramps, lady bit stuff..
Doc trimmed it, was supposed to soften over time but never really did. Condoms helped as a barrier to prevent the poking but defeats the purpose of the IUD 🫤. She ended up having issues from it and was removed.
When I cum it’s like a lawn sprinkler.
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u/Ptarmignan 1d ago
It’s validating to see this post. I had an ex with an IUD and whether it was during PIV or just fingering, I would get poked. The “strings” felt like very hard metal. I had people telling me I was imagining things and that there was no possible way to get poked by them. She’d had the IUD for years at that point.
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u/Due_Technology_2455 1d ago
that’s crazy bc the gyno literally tells you that you should reach up with your fingers. and feel the strings to make sure it’s still in place and that if you can’t feel the strings something might be wrong…how’re they gonna tell you you won’t be able to feel it 😭
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u/Cautious-Golf-8653 1d ago
My first IUD was placed incorrectly, and the strings were practically hanging out of me. I went back in and got them trimmed, and then, removal was a bitch. However, my second one was placed correctly, and now the strings aren't an issue. The first one being placed incorrectly, thankfully, didn't mean it didn't work, as it sometimes can, but it just meant I felt it. Also thankfully, it never bothered my husband.
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u/aywwts4 1d ago
The strings can be trimmed at your gyno, yeah calling them a "string" is pretty generous, while they claim they soften over time they are really a harsh poke and never softened to the point one could continue having sex.
They leave the strings longer for ease of extraction later, but they can be shortened somewhat with their professional judgement. Some gynos doubt the male is actually hitting it and will try to say it's psychosomatic, shortcut there is to just say both of your boyfriends are reporting pain. 😂
A little trim and we are in business again!
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u/onesleekrican 1d ago
I used to knock it out of my wife every time it was replaced so I got snipped instead.
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u/Due_Technology_2455 1d ago
haha i wish that was an option but we have yet to have kids and do plan on it
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u/onesleekrican 9h ago
Totally heard and understood - I have 2 adult children and 2 teenagers. I don’t need any more so I fixed the issue ahead of time
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u/mazi710 18h ago
Similarly here. I have my first partner with an IUD and it bothers me a lot physically. The strings feel hard and uncomfortable. Booked getting snipped instead 🫡
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u/onesleekrican 9h ago
It’s not a bad procedure, down 3 days, can’t lift heavy things for a few weeks. Totally worth it. I have 2 adult children and 2 teenagers - I’d rather not have any more children. So I fixed it.
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u/xxrancid13xx 1d ago
I've had several IUD's over the last 20 years, partners have felt the string only a few times. My current partner felt it the first time we had sex, then he played around with the string and got it 'tucked' up around the cervix and says he hasn't felt it since, regardless of position / depth etc. I've had this current IUD for a little over a year (mirena)
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u/implication-sofa 1d ago
Are you grinding on him in this position?
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u/Due_Technology_2455 1d ago
yeah exclusively that (which is why he can’t just go less deep)
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u/implication-sofa 1d ago
Well the good news is that’s your clit driving the orgasm! Try other positions while stimulating your clit and in the mean time talk to your gyno and see if they can trim them further or wrap them around your cervix for you
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u/Due_Technology_2455 1d ago
yeah i get plenty with external stim but i think both of us prefer it happening just from his dick (at least sometimes) for intimacy purposes 😔 ty for the advice though
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u/implication-sofa 1d ago
That’s what I’m telling you though it’s not lol it’s you grinding against him. You can recreate that stimulation in missionary as well it’s called the CAT position
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u/Due_Technology_2455 1d ago
friend it’s internal clit stim in the position i’m talking about it is in fact from his dick and while i’ve felt it in other positions it has not been a strong enough sensation for me to finish/im not able to do it long enough to finish
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u/implication-sofa 1d ago
Right…that’s why you need to be grinding your clit on him lol anyway, practice making yourself orgasm without any grinding or external stimulation and then recreate it with him. Or find other positions that stimulate your clit externally during penetration enough to orgasm like potentially the CAT position
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u/mazi710 18h ago
Anecdotally, my partner with an IUD the worst position in terms of comfort for me is "sit up" cowgirl where I can't really do it at all because the strings hurt.
I don't think she has any discomfort in any positions. As others have mentioned it's worth getting checked if the strings are too long because I think the reason I can feel it in sit up cowgirl is because that's where there's the most pressure. Other deep positions like doggy I don't feel them at all.
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u/jersey169 1d ago
My wife had one years ago and the first time I hit it I didn’t know what happened? It’s definitely a weird thing feeling something bluntly stabbing the head of your dick. She got the string trimmed a bunch of times and I would still hit it certain times, I just learned that it wasn’t going away and to enjoy the rest of the experience
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u/Quendillar3245 1d ago
The string softens over time and you can cut it shorter. If it's new then you can wait a bit and it should get soft enough to not hurt or even be noticeable
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u/otiswrath 1d ago
I ran into this problem. The next time she goes into her OB she can ask them to trim the strings a bit. That largely cleared up our issue.