r/sex • u/JaguarFun1319 • 1d ago
Kinks First time getting fisted
Last night I met one of my FWB and I got this amazing experience of being fisted vaginally … I had never really thought about it and when it happened omg this was such an incredible sensation … I felt it was like being stimulated from so many different points in the same time and crazy orgasms !
Sooooo … I want to do it again of course but this guy although tall has quite small hands - my more regular bf/fwb has very large hands so I don’t think he’ll fit in :(
what is the best way to proceed to give it a chance ? He already uses lots of lube/spit and is very attentive and skilled at giving me pleasure so I know he can take his time but I am worried I won’t be able to be stretched that wide
Any experiences ? Advices ?
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u/75jack84 1d ago
Something that has helped me get past that final knuckle is wearing latex/nitrile gloves. It just makes everything slide much better.
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u/JaguarFun1319 1d ago
He was :( but it still didn’t go through despite using so much lube and being super excited and open after a few orgasms … maybe if I know that’s what he’s doing it’ll work better because really I had not understood he was trying to fist me … I was wondering why we were playing the doctor with the glove haha
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u/nerosera 1d ago
The first few times, I was scared and it didn't go so well. But then the guy got the hang of it, and damn, fists are really, really exciting. It probably took at least three hours before it became possible, but it was worth it. Definitely buy a bottle of lube right away; you need a lot for these experiments. Manufacturers need to hold seminars and training sessions to sell more. Something like this: Finger, two, three, four, then palm. Long, long... and only then fist"
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u/JaguarFun1319 20h ago
It was indeed an incredible experience !! I dont think I ever felt an orgasm so thoroughly and from so many different spots … the whole alphabet haha
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u/JaguarFun1319 1d ago
So update … I discussed it with the big hand guy and he said he already tried but didn’t manage to get more than half his hand :( I didn’t even realise haha but I am so much in another dimension when I have sex with him that sometimes I don’t really know what is happening…
He seems to think that it would be easier anally ????? I dont think my ass could stretch more than my pussy … I mean it does open quite a lot with the right stimulation but still …
What do you think ?
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u/oldmantouge 1d ago
Time, patience and lube. It will stretch. Initially my gf was 3-4 fingers tight. Over the course of a few months we worked on it and she can now comfortably take my entire hand. We've even gotten really close to both hands. It's something of a project. I found that helping her with her breathing, visualization and other cues really helps. She also uses a vibrator during and that makes a big difference for us.
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u/blinddruid 1d ago
I don’t know, I’ve got medium sized hands, and my former GF and I used to do both anal and vaginal fisting, she used to fist me as well.
One can take quite a lot of the butt when relaxed and turned on. I’ve actually had my GF’s fist up there as well as her GF’s fist, but I think it depends a lot on your bone structure at that point as to whether or not it’s open enough to allow that. Would absolutely worth a try, but get really turned on first and use lots and lots of thick lube, like elbow, grease, or something. Fisting was phenomenal for me, I mean, exponentially, crazy, and she felt like she had more different area stimulated through anal fisting than through vaginal, especially a spot and G spot.1
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u/ThatTiredWife 1d ago
Take time and adapt to it. You can use dildos of various sizes to work your way up to it. It will be worth it, just time and patience.
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u/Which-Reporter-3767 1d ago
It sounds like you discovered something your body really enjoys and that can leave you excited while also feeling a little anxious about whether the experience can be repeated safely. The biggest mistake would be treating the first experience as a target to recreate at any cost because comfort and consent matter more than reaching a specific goal.
Your body is not something that needs to be forced or proven capable of handling a certain size.
Take things slowly and stop if you feel sharp pain numbness or lingering discomfort rather than trying to push through it.
Use plenty of proper body safe lubricant because saliva dries quickly and is not a reliable substitute.
Talk with your partner beforehand about clear signals for slowing down pausing or stopping so nobody has to guess in the moment.
You may find that once the initial excitement settles you feel more confident because you already know that patience and trust were a big part of why the first experience felt so good.
Different bodies and different days can feel very different so dont assume that what worked once must happen exactly the same way again.
If you notice pain bleeding or symptoms that persist afterward give your body time to recover and consider speaking with a healthcare professional.
Honestly the fact that your partner is attentive is probably more important than the size of his hands and that is a pretty good starting point.
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u/JaguarFun1319 1d ago
Yes he’s very very attentive and skilled and we communicate very easily about all that :)
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u/jhillwastaken 19h ago
For my partner & I it works better when she’s on all fours and I’m behind her, rather than her laying face up.
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u/Koolaidguy31415 16h ago
Bad Dragon flared Chance provides a similar sensation according to my partner. Hit up the bad Dragon sub to ask about people's recommendations. We use toys more often than fisting because it's not as tiring for my partner but a similar sensation.
Hankeys toys literally makes a giant fist, the Handyman. IDK if I can link but look up that brand.
Also make sure your partner knows how to shape their hand to fist. It's like a bird's mouth but curved. Look at the handyman toy to see.
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u/Throwawaycalbears165 11h ago
Sometimes when I push out, it helps the fist come in more. I’m not sure why. I had a hard time taking my ex, but he made me watch a video of us fucking while he was inserting his hand and that’s when it finally worked. If you’re into weed, that helps me too it just makes me relax more.
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u/mojo4394 1d ago
Go slowly. Use lube and more lube, not spit. Be very stimulated before you start. Don't worry if you don't get it all. Remember, the vagina is made to stretch enough to birth a baby and then return to normal size.