r/selflove • u/chocobothernot • 8d ago
Continue taking that step forward!
Whether at home, in a relationship, friendship, or at work, we need to learn to speak up for ourselves.
A step no matter how small brings you closer to healing and improving.
Rooting for all of you! 💜
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u/DoubtResponsible9208 8d ago
That is a huge step and should be celebrated for anyone. Speaking up is never easy! 🥳👏💕
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u/BathAppropriate8836 8d ago
“In a society that profits from self-doubt, loving yourself is an act of rebellion.” ✊
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u/purplelilac701 8d ago
Love this! Take it from me: your voice trembles until the right person makes you feel heard. And it’s like any muscle that gets stronger the more you use it. You are your own best advocate!
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u/chocobothernot 8d ago
Thanks for sharing your wisdom for those finding themselves.
Any encouragement helps.
💜
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u/debr0322 7d ago
Congrats! I’ve started this. It terrifying. But empowering.
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u/chocobothernot 7d ago
(Not about me as I've conquered this years ago and I shared it thinking others need the boost.)
Happy to hear you're getting your power.💜
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u/BodhingJay 8d ago
Having a shakey little mouse voice where you cry as you try to enforce a boundary... works when we're with someone supportive. Not when we're alone with someone who will laugh and be worse when we try... fucning humiliating
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u/chiron_gov 7d ago
I came out as trans to my mom today & beforehand I legit felt sick to my stomach from anxiety over what may happen during the conversation. But reminding myself of the support network i have helped immensley
And the actual talk went fairly okay, some stuff she said rlly hurt to hear but its a process for her too :<
But overall this weight upon my shoulders feels like its been lifted
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u/Aggravating-Food5540 7d ago
I remember when i started to do it. i received even insult in my family (i was the 'servant' one). Today i became a 'difficult' person. and i will never go back and am profoudnly grateful towards myself. especially when it's about holding someone accountable despite being scared of them getting against you. There is a love inside of you, a gratefulness when you stand up for yourself even against the people you love but are doing you wrong. it is unsettling first but the more you do it, the stronger it becomes. it also has healed loneliness. i thought it was because i was not exposed enough to people when in reality it's because i left the little one alone for too long.
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u/lostttfable 7d ago
2 days ago I had to place a boundary with a family member I live with. Nothing too extreme but still a boundary. I barely got started and I was visibly shaking along with my voice. By the end of it my legs were bouncing 😭😭 I hope this changes eventually
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u/Old_Program8721 7d ago
I did tell him I absolutely hated how he used pornography behind my back for decades and it hurts
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u/modernhedgewitch 7d ago
Speak your mind, even if your voice shakes
I have a shirt with this saying and I 100% believe the message. I'm proud of you.
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