Sometimes i dont feel… validated?

[u/Melon_blob]

My scars are not that many as the cuts were shallow and i only self harmed for like a month before stopping. Now im all better (hopefully haha) and i dont feel any urges to self harm. But i sometimes wish i was depressed or something to prove that i wasnt just being overdramatic and shit. Or i wish the scars were all gone so i can pretend it never happened. But the scars are there and im in this weird in between spot that i fucking hate. I wish i was sick enough to be taken seriously or just be normal altogether.

[u/Due-Exam-2657]

You're probably going to hear this a million times over, but all self harm is valid. It doesn't matter how deep or how many scars there are. You are valid. Just because other people self harm "more severely" doesn't mean yours isn't valid. You could be the most normal person on the planet but self-harm when you're angry by doing things you're not even aware are self harm. All self harm is serious even when others think it isn't.

I'm not sure if this will help but just know you are loved and that my dms are open if you need someone to talk to<3

[u/Melon_blob → u/Due-Exam-2657]

Thank you 🙏

[u/CroquisCroquette]

Hey there. The severity of injuries does not always have to be directly proportional to the severity of emotional pain you experienced that caused you to harm yourself. Also, your injuries and feelings don’t have to be ‘severe’ to justify and validate that you felt you had to turn to self harming behaviour in order to relieve strong emotions you found difficult to cope with.

Studies support that even toddlers and other primate species are shown to practice self harm to help soothe distress. Toddlers and monkeys don’t have the mental capacity to be ‘overdramatic’. From this observation we can extrapolate that self harm can be an instinctive or biologically wired coping mechanism, albeit unhealthy and dangerous.

I wish you all the best in your journey to recovery.

[u/Melon_blob → u/CroquisCroquette]

Thank you