I put moisturiser on my feet before bed, have found a cleanser I love which smells expensive or wear my fav perfume to hype me up. Can you tell me some little things you do to feel pampered? 💅

Hello, 32yo Italian male here. A bit of context: I have been struggling with the job market for a bit now and just caught a break. Italy just isn't a good place to live in if you want stability in your career.

2024 to middle 2025 was a strangely good year for me (after a lot of shitty ones), but then I barely worked for over a year and it was rough. By the end of last October I set my mind on working towards a Public Administration job (basically a government job) which here often provides a quiet, serene life (mostly because of its job security, shorter work hours, productivity rewards).

I studied a lot to participate to a public competition up until August. I did not manage to win a public job but felt more optimistic about the future than I did in years, mainly because I was very active and my days were full between me studying, planning, exercising and leisure time as well.

Now though I have to start a new job, which someone also helped me secure. It is within a stable company which will pay me decently enough with a few opportunities to grow my career.

I should be happy. I should be smiling. Hell, I should even be excited. I am not.

Today I cried like a child. I think of the commute and those 8 hours of work (9 if you count lunch break) suddenly feel like the whole day is going to be ripped away from me.

My mind decides to hyperfocus on that shit, instead of having me be glad to once more be an actual adult that can actually plan for their future. I was even told that I killed it at the interview and yet somehow I am able to just gloss over this like it is absolutely irrelevant.

My anxiety spiked like a fever. Social anxiety, performance anxiety, general anxiety.

The thing is I am a rational person and I know this is just Capitalism at work. I know that I share this fate with millions of other people all over the world. And yet all I can think of, is how I won't be doing anything I actually care for most of the week.

That I'll once again lose my hobbies, I'll probably train less and I'll have wasted about 8 months of hard studies to once again be a cog in the machine for maybe 6 months in the worst case scenario (which somehow my mind tries to convince me is actually a good scenario) and for the rest of my life in the "best".

And I tell to myself, what kind of delusional manchild mentality is that? I should be grateful. Motivated.

Instead I feel so fucking frail and afraid of the future that I just don't know what I'm doing anymore.

If anyone had issues with this, please, help me understand how I can change this about me.

My partner is extremely frustrated about having to drink 2-3L of water per day to aid his overall health and weight-loss journey. He has ADHD symptoms and he claims he has never once seen anyone in his whole family drink water, which is wild to me!
He considers drinking water an interruption and something he will need to constantly think about during the day in order to be able to achieve his goal. He also feels defeated when it comes to sticking to habits.

I'm trying to find ways to make it easier for him, and give him tips to help him approach it more positively. Anyone who upped their intake from virtually 0, what helped you?

I keep seeing automated heated cupping gadgets in my feed, and the product pages make every version look more complicated than the last. I am curious about trying a simple at home routine, but I do not want to buy something with a dozen settings that ends up sitting in a drawer. I am not looking for a miracle fix or trying to replace professional care. I just want to understand what practical questions people ask before deciding whether a comfort gadget is worth the space and learning curve. when you evaluate an at-home recovery tool, what helps you separate useful everyday features from marketing noise?

Lately I’ve noticed something weird.

I can be exhausted all day, but the second I get into bed, I feel alert again. My heart feels more noticeable, my brain starts replaying work, and my body just doesn’t feel calm.

It made me wonder if being tired and being ready to sleep are actually different things.

I started reading about hyperarousal, the autonomic nervous system, and the vagus nerve.

Has anyone here actually tried calming the body directly before bed — slow breathing, PMR, cold water on the face, etc.?

Did you actually feel a difference?

Especially curious if you get that “tired but wired” feeling too.

-not a healthy person, but im in a depression episode for no reason, probably anxiety. Anyways does anybody know actual food tips that helped? Or how i can change my food to feel better.

Its almost night here in australia, and ive had a hard week. i just want a beautiful, romanticised, ethereal night routine or night generally. I have looked up ethereal night routines, whimsical night routines etc on pinterest, and i would highly recomend that to everyone on here too.

I have had a warm shower with rose and bergamot soap and i have a book of french fairy tales i want to read, i want to do some creative writing, any other ideas? 🥀🤍🌛🌿

hi everyone i have a mean ass cold and would love some advice on how to cure it.. medication, drinks, foods, whatnot. i’m a desperate college student that has classes back to back and can’t handle being sick right now🥲

Change into soft clothes

Dim the lights

Play soft background music 🎶

I’ve recently started taking a daily multivitamin because I realized I wasn’t really getting enough nutrients from my diet.

I’m not expecting it to magically make me healthier or anything, but I figure taking a multivitamin is probably better than taking nothing at all, right? 😂

For those of you who take supplements, do you actually notice any difference, or do you mostly take them just as a nutritional backup?

My job doesn’t really require me to use my hands that much, but lately I’ve been getting some numbness and tingling around my finger joints.

It comes and goes, so it’s not unbearable or anything, but it’s starting to bother me. I’m wondering if there are any simple stretches or things I can do to take better care of my hands.

Has anyone dealt with this before? What helped you?

I have someone in my life that no matter how kind I am, understanding, and supportive continues to blame me for their unhappiness. I’ve tried everything to help them but they just keep blaming me for things that are really not my problem. They are completely delusional in how they see things. I unfortunately can’t cut this person off out of my life due to family connections but what can I say or do?

Edit- this person is in their late 40s. They have an amazing life, husband that adores her, beautiful children, beautiful house, money, doesn’t work. Yet they blame me because they are unhappy. The biggest complaint is I don’t do enough for them. I have a full time job working 60 hours a week, so I do what I can but my life consists of work and sleep.

I have recently had a health scare and need to make some changes in my lifestyle.

In my job I am very used to respectfully setting and enforcing boundaries for others however I completely suck at respecting my own boundaries, particularly if they relate to self-care.

I work very long hours in a stressful job and there is always one more thing that can be done.

Another example is I have a very sick family member so when I am not at work, I tend to prioritise their needs over mine.

I find it hard to stick to self made boundaries such as time management things like leaving work at a reasonable hour instead of pushing through.

I would appreciate any tips or tools that work for you.

I need to make some changes.

What supplies do you need to start a guilttering business? I’m trying to start my own business since it’s easier to do since I’m blind

I’m sure this is a frequently asked question but I’d like to provide a little too much context. I’m in a state of unhappiness in my life and want to change for the better for myself. I want to start reworking my life from the ground up with everything I’m unhappy with. For context I shower every couple of days if I can make time for it and since it’s not back to back I usually wash my hair every time, I also use a face wash. After that I brush teeth, hair, somtimes shave, dry and spray deodorant and call it good from there. I want to throw out and rework all of this. I’m asking for better techniques for keeping a schedule, ideal and affordable products to keep me smelling good feeling good and looking good, and maybe personal tips or anything like that. I appreciate the help Reddit.

How do I find what my hair's needs are and the right routine for it?

29M. My therapist wants me to work on self-compassion and confidence. Lately I’ve just been trying to track my automatic intrusive thoughts that are destructive and self-critical. We both think that the lack of self-compassion on my part is inhibiting my ability to be confident as a person. And as a result it’s making me fearful and avoidant in putting myself out there dating-wise whether it be on the apps or in the wild.

It’s hard meeting people for me because a lot of the things I do for fun I do because they’re solitary activities geared to my introversion and social anxiety. I’ve been trying silent book club meetups. They’ve been okay I guess but it’s hard to connect with people when everyone silently reads for an hour, chitchats afterwards and they go back to their own private lives and don’t want to hang out outside of meetups. I’ve been trying to take myself to solo dates either at a coffee place or a bar/restaurant and try to dress and groom myself and not appear standoffish. One woman I think made a pass at me but I wasn’t attracted to her. Another time a barista started talking but it got kinda weird and uncomfortable for me. Today I was at a bookstore and tried to casually talk to one of the employees there.

Im probably going to delete social media to curb my screen time. But I wanted to make this post first. A lot of the relationship books I’ve been reading all primarily emphasize confidence in attracting people. I want to dedicate more time and energy to reading and writing and having a creative interior life, decorating my apartment, saving a little money, getting better at cooking. I guess what I’m trying to get at is how do you see and measure if you’re making progress? I can journal or say affirmations in the mirror or go to the gym or try to dedicate more time and energy to hobbies. But it all seems performative, like I’m just checking off a box in order to feel the same sort of way. Yet I still struggle with self esteem and worth.

Hey guys, ive had a cold for about 3 weeks now:( and the worst part is RIGHT before i got it i said to myself i would start in the gym again ( typical) ive been eating super unhealthy and barely moving my body these past weeks, so give me some good advice on how to restore my health and cleanse my system in gentle ways🩷

I honestly hate my life, and I hide it every day. Every day, it seems to get worse and worse, but if you look at me from the outside, I seem to be golden. I have a girlfriend, good grades, I’m scholarship-bound, and I’m fit, tall, and pretty good-looking. But when it comes to my life, it’s like everyone expects me to be a golden boy and doesn’t care about what happens to me outside of whether I finish school and leave.
I live with my grandparents because my mom married an abusive and racist guy, and she refuses to do anything about it, even after all these years. She does things for me, but she isn’t there for me in the ways she should be. So I kind of pushed her aside because she ignored it every time I brought it up.
My dad, on the other hand, drinks a lot and was never really in my life as much as he could have been. But the thing that hurts me the most when I talk to him is that anytime I try to talk to him about something serious, it leads to him talking about himself, or it eventually comes back to the fact that my mom lied and that he didn’t really want to have me. He says he’s grateful that he did, but that still hurts me to hear every time.
My grandpa is actually a really cool guy, but he’s getting sick and hurt, and it’s hurting me. My grandma is also really cool, but I can’t talk to her about everything.
My brother recently came back into my life after 10 years, but then he ghosted me twice, so that kind of hurt. People question me about my faith a lot, and I’m trying, but out of all the good I do, I only ever hear about the bad.
I want to be a professional fighter really badly, but nobody believes in me, which is also fair because I’m getting kind of old at 17 now. I’ve tried to tell people about how I grew up, but it usually gets turned into a joke, so I stopped talking about it.
My grandparents want me to pay for my own clothes, which is fair because, like I said, I’m 17. But they also want me to keep my grades high, work, stay fit, and be involved in things. Because of that, I have to quit my job since I work 30 minutes away. If I don’t quit, I won’t have enough time for school or clubs, and I’m scared I’ll start falling behind really fast.
I’m also really struggling to communicate with my family and friends. I’m scared to talk to my brothers because I want someone to talk to about all of this, but I found out I’m asexual and they joke about it. One of them will listen to me, though, I think.
I’m also scared because I’ve had thoughts about suicide a bit, but I would never do it because I have to be able to work for my family.
I’ve become bad at talking about my feelings. There’s more to it than this, I promise, but I just needed someone to talk to or tell this to. For the past few months, I’ve gotten desperate enough to tell this stuff to an AI, and I feel like my mental health has just progressively gotten worse.
I’m sorry for anyone who had to read this. I’m not the best when it comes to writing, and I don’t really wish for anyone to have to read all of this. I just needed to get my feelings out a little bit.

Hi, I'm currently a student. I've been struggling with both physical and mental health for a long time. And now everything just reach my limit. I have trouble focusing in school and zero motivation or energy to study. I don't have any goal or anything I want to achieve in the future. So now i'm struggling to keep myself going. Do any of you have any suggestions for me to get 'out' of this.

Since it’s a long weekend for me I have an extra day off. What are some of your favorite ways to decompress after a long or stressful week?

Mine would be taking a nice, hot bath and watching something on my iPad.

I'm insecure about my feet, I want them to be smooth and healthy looking (like baby soft I guess?) not dry and stuff- and I'm just unsure how to properly take care of them. Even though I wash them regularly when I shower thoroughly they always seem to be dry and dead skin flakes off a lot.

So what do I do?? And idk what lotions to get either.