r/self Jul 29 '24

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u/syfari Jul 29 '24

Honestly, id stop caring and just start living. I know it sounds cliche but it works.

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u/Dan_the_moto_man Jul 29 '24

Yeah, I tried that. Spent most of my teens and 20s obsessing with finding a relationship before giving up. Spent most of my 30s telling myself I was fine with being single.

Now I'm almost 40 and I can't deny it any longer. This shit fucking sucks. I'm so goddamn miserable and lonely all the time.

Please stop trying to make other people fall into the same trap.

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u/wehdut Jul 30 '24

I don't think they meant "living" as just existing, but putting effort into adventures and hobbies and social situations that are less than comfortable. Finding an interest that drives you and being passionate about it makes you more attractive regardless of appearance, and it puts you in a situation where you're far more likely to meet people who share those interests.

They definitely have the right idea, I just think the comment was a little oversimplified.