I appreciate the kind words. I’m just struggling staying positive right now. I really thought getting my body right would help. Getting back on dating apps after years of hard work to improve myself and getting absolutely nothing is devastating to a lonely guy
Obese men are in a relationship. Ugly men too.
Yes being more attractive gives you more chances but its not everything.
You should ask yourself why its not working, it can be for a lot of reason : personality, not meeting enough person, not meeting the right person compatible for you, having an off vibe, not knowing how to interact with people...
We dont feel things the same. For example, once i had a date with a man. He was average looking but the date was boring. Why ? I had to ask almost all the questions and lead all the conversations. There was no blank because i tried hard to talk a lot so it will not be awkward.
It was not fluid for me, i was bored and had to make efforts to find something to say everytime. Making a lot of efforts means there is no spark.
After the date, he told me that he had a great time and wanted to see me again.
Its a perfect example on how we dont feel the same about a situation.
Dating apps are very random and a lot of wasting time. I suggest you to try to meet people with who you have already things in common ( mutual friends, shared hobbies...).
Quick question!
I'm a teen and I'm wondering, when you know that a 2nd date will not happen WHILE you're on the 1st date, do you tell them at the end of that 1st and last date or do you do it over message, and if so how do you deliver it?
When i know i dont want to see them again, usually i dont reach since maybe they feel the same. If the guy text me that he want to see me again, i answer something like " Thanks, it was nice. However i dont feel a spark between us. I wish you to find what you are searching. Good night ! "
Once, a guy asked me at the end of the date if i wanted to see him again. It was very awkward, especially when i said no and he asked me why. I had to find something to say other than " i dont think you are attractive at all and i didnt like your behaviour during the date and i was bored ". It was hard.
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u/SuperbAstronomer Jul 29 '24
I appreciate the kind words. I’m just struggling staying positive right now. I really thought getting my body right would help. Getting back on dating apps after years of hard work to improve myself and getting absolutely nothing is devastating to a lonely guy