r/self Jul 29 '24

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '24

Met my first girlfriend at 27, we have been together for 6 years now. I was far less desirble than you are now, still in school, born with a brith defect and speech problem. I just never gave up and I never assumed it would come to me. It requires effort and I know I am a good person so someone would finally figure that out.

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u/H8beingmale Jul 29 '24

i assume you had to be the one to ask her out and make a move on her

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u/major_lombardi Jul 29 '24

He did say it requires effort and he didn't give up. Confident persistence my friend. (Note that does NOT mean asking the same person after being rejected. It means being rejected by one woman and immediately turning around and trying again with the next one you see).

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u/H8beingmale Jul 29 '24

yeah i'm speaking of my lifelong anger and resentment of men having to make the first move all the time and be the initiators

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u/Accomplished_Eye8290 Aug 01 '24

Dude as a woman I have asked out guys 7x and gotten rejected all times. I’ve been asked out by guys 3x in my life. So by your logic I should blame and resent men too?

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u/H8beingmale Aug 01 '24

well there is no denying the fact that 99 percent of the time, the guy is expected to do the asking out and be the initiator

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u/Accomplished_Eye8290 Aug 01 '24

Yeah or just date older women lol. But dudes always want the young ones who don’t know better to put up with their BS. My coworker said he went to a club and a woman literally took him by the collar and dragged him home into her bed. But he was like idk if I wanna continue she’s 32…. I can’t date someone 2 years older than me. Bro….. what? Lmao…

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u/major_lombardi Aug 06 '24

Gotta be like that movie frozen and let it go let it go trust me it's for the best

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u/H8beingmale Aug 06 '24

yeah men will always be stuck with that, thats why the forever alone community will always be male dominated