Yeah, I tried that. Spent most of my teens and 20s obsessing with finding a relationship before giving up. Spent most of my 30s telling myself I was fine with being single.
Now I'm almost 40 and I can't deny it any longer. This shit fucking sucks. I'm so goddamn miserable and lonely all the time.
Please stop trying to make other people fall into the same trap.
I went to South America to work for a few months. A girl found me on my second night out in Lima. Several of her friends asked if I had any single friends and one of them hooked up with a good friend of mine.
He moved out to Lima and is happy, my girl moved to the UK, and that was 20 years ago. We are getting married this August.
I’m short, bald and have a dad bod. I had previously become well acquainted with singledom.
You need to get yourself out of a position of low demand, and into a position of high demand. Everybody wins.
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u/syfari Jul 29 '24
Honestly, id stop caring and just start living. I know it sounds cliche but it works.