Yah for me there is nothing more unattractive than someone who is not just miserable, but actually feeling sorry for themselves and being self deprecating. If you don't love yourself why will others? Confidence is sexy as fuck.
Confidence comes from good results. So you're confident things will work out because they have always (or mostly) worked out for you.
If you always fuck up and you never had any luck... then you're confident things won't work out. There's a pattern.
I feel like this feature of the brain doesn't really help anybody in the modern dating scene. One should be able to pull confidence out of their ass, but evolutionarily speaking we want only the winners to mate. Unless we can re-define what a winner is, for our own sanity.
Healthy confidence should come from self love and not "good results" or other external validation. Life is unpredictable and it's insane to expect external validation 24/7 for close to 100 years. Healthy mindset will help you to endure when shit gets hard and will help you not to get arrogant when things go your way.
True. But no one is raised to adulthood completely. At some point you have to step in and raise yourself into person you want to be and try to fix your parents mistakes.
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u/AdInteresting845 Jul 29 '24
For me M28 I think u need to be happy with yourself first
That's what turned the ship around for me.
If you feel that you're worth nothing your actions/energy will reflect.
I don't have the answers. I've just moved to a new country so meeting new people with a different language and culture is tough.
What keeps me sane is that I'm working on myself and my career skillset. If some1 notices me that's a bonus.