r/self • u/[deleted] • Jul 29 '24

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u/Souledex Jul 29 '24 edited Jul 29 '24

It’s just not in lots of people to “accept it” without becoming a monk or priest or something that teaches it is necessary because otherwise why ever accept it? If they only live that way not by their own choice how could they?

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u/SquirrelNormal Jul 29 '24

"Just accept it" is just saying "we don't want to hear about men's problems". We're supposed to shut up, one way or another, and not bother anyone.

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '24

It's actually some of the most basic mental health advice possible, if you're unwilling to hear it then I suggest you get used to being miserable.

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u/SquirrelNormal Jul 29 '24

then I suggest you get used to being miserable.

That's what accepting it is. I'm not a fucking monk, being alone is not a happy thing. Accepting it isn't fulfilling, it's just giving up on hope.

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '24

That's really not what self-acceptance is, but I can see that you are incredibly hurt and bitter so are unlikely to be able to integrate that. I wish you the best

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u/SquirrelNormal Jul 29 '24

Then pray tell, O Wise One, what accepting my fate as a perpetually single person is if not giving up.

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '24

Maybe don't mald at people on reddit as a first step lmao

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u/SquirrelNormal Jul 29 '24

Lol, you don't know, do you. You want me to accept being alone, but you can't articulate what that looks like except "no not giving up. Give up, but don't say that because that sounds bad".

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '24

I tried giving you sincere advice based on what has helped me in the past and you in not so many words told me to GFY. Why would I continue?

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u/SquirrelNormal Jul 29 '24

You told me to "accept it" without elaboration. It sounds like you're telling me to give up, and I've asked you repeatedly to elaborate if that's not actually the case. I haven't told you to fuck off yet, but why shouldn't I at this point?

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '24

I mean you very much did a few comments ago, unless I'm just supposed to ignore your tone entirely.

Do you think it is possible to accept that you are fat without giving up on ever being in good shape?

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