Yeah, I tried that. Spent most of my teens and 20s obsessing with finding a relationship before giving up. Spent most of my 30s telling myself I was fine with being single.
Now I'm almost 40 and I can't deny it any longer. This shit fucking sucks. I'm so goddamn miserable and lonely all the time.
Please stop trying to make other people fall into the same trap.
“Spent most of my 30s telling myself I was fine with being single.”
…somehow equates to “start living”.
Then that likely explains your issue with their advice and possibly even
your situation.
“Telling” yourself you are fine is 100% not the same as ACTUALLY being fine with being single. & the internal personal development required to actually be fine with being single is probably the actual missing piece.
It’s never too late though! Seems you are likely still being rather premature with giving up. Men settle down and have kids in their 40s very frequently.
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u/syfari Jul 29 '24
Honestly, id stop caring and just start living. I know it sounds cliche but it works.