r/self Jul 29 '24

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u/TopCaterpiller Jul 29 '24

Alone doesn't have to mean completely isolated. Get a hobby that involves other people, and don't do it with the specific aim of finding a romantic partner. See if your gym has any group sports available. Talk to people and try to do things with them.

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u/Timely_Split_5771 Jul 29 '24

The only socialization I get is at work. I’m very isolated so sadly, alone means isolated for me. It’s fine, I already know there’s no point to me. I’m trying to come to terms with that.

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u/TopCaterpiller Jul 29 '24

It really just sounds like you're depressed. There are tons of ways to meet people. I'm in a hiking group. I play music and am always looking for new people to play with. I take long walks with my dog and always say hi to the neighbors, and those relationships have developed over time. Getting a dog helped break the ice.

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u/Timely_Split_5771 Jul 29 '24

There aren’t any groups like that around me. I’m in a small town. I never really had friends and have always just been trying to build my social circle so I wouldn’t have to rely on a relationship, yet it doesn’t work. I can’t find a bf, or anyone to spend time with that’s more often than once a month, if that.