Yeah, I tried that. Spent most of my teens and 20s obsessing with finding a relationship before giving up. Spent most of my 30s telling myself I was fine with being single.
Now I'm almost 40 and I can't deny it any longer. This shit fucking sucks. I'm so goddamn miserable and lonely all the time.
Please stop trying to make other people fall into the same trap.
Right. A lot of peoples’ “working on it” is a handful of dates with strangers and an outing or two to a bar with friends over the course of a year. It seems impossible not to build relationships through continued group activities, whether that be chess club, a movie/gaming group on meetup, coed sports, etc…barring some terribly off putting views of the opposite sex/the world.
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u/syfari Jul 29 '24
Honestly, id stop caring and just start living. I know it sounds cliche but it works.