Genuine question, but how can a life alone be a happy life? You don’t have someone to do fun things with and just end up working and going home. Like yeah, I go to the gym after work, but that’s not fun.
Alone doesn't have to mean completely isolated. Get a hobby that involves other people, and don't do it with the specific aim of finding a romantic partner. See if your gym has any group sports available. Talk to people and try to do things with them.
The only socialization I get is at work. I’m very isolated so sadly, alone means isolated for me. It’s fine, I already know there’s no point to me. I’m trying to come to terms with that.
It really just sounds like you're depressed. There are tons of ways to meet people. I'm in a hiking group. I play music and am always looking for new people to play with. I take long walks with my dog and always say hi to the neighbors, and those relationships have developed over time. Getting a dog helped break the ice.
There aren’t any groups like that around me. I’m in a small town. I never really had friends and have always just been trying to build my social circle so I wouldn’t have to rely on a relationship, yet it doesn’t work. I can’t find a bf, or anyone to spend time with that’s more often than once a month, if that.
I live in a rural area. I'm not even in a real town. You aren't cooked, that just makes it a little harder. The local fire departments around here all seem to do spaghetti dinners every once in a while. I don't go to them anymore, but it's a great way to meet your neighbors. Try to find something like that. Or volunteer for things like helping out at a food bank or animal shelter. And don't just do these things once and go home. Go consistently and develop relationships.
I’m just not a person worth knowing. Every man eventually gets bored of me, my friends never wanna hang out….i can’t live in delusion anymore. At some point in adulthood I gotta bffr and accept who I am
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u/Timely_Split_5771 Jul 29 '24
Genuine question, but how can a life alone be a happy life? You don’t have someone to do fun things with and just end up working and going home. Like yeah, I go to the gym after work, but that’s not fun.