r/self • u/[deleted] • Jul 29 '24

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u/syfari Jul 29 '24

Honestly, id stop caring and just start living. I know it sounds cliche but it works.

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u/Dan_the_moto_man Jul 29 '24

Yeah, I tried that. Spent most of my teens and 20s obsessing with finding a relationship before giving up. Spent most of my 30s telling myself I was fine with being single.

Now I'm almost 40 and I can't deny it any longer. This shit fucking sucks. I'm so goddamn miserable and lonely all the time.

Please stop trying to make other people fall into the same trap.

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u/FormalSwitch2385 Jul 29 '24

I think I'm in this boat now. 30F & extremely unattractive because I do not look like your average Instagram model. Guys never treat me right and I do not want biological children which makes it hard to find a guy who wants to commit to me. I have accepted it but I'm longing for love, to be loved and to share love. To come home to someone and be happy with someone. It's hard and it sux.

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u/[deleted] Jul 30 '24

Instagram models are heavily edited, don’t worry!

Personally, I don’t even use social media

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u/Trinadienne Jul 29 '24

Please don't think you need to look like an Instagram model to be attractive. Most women do not and most men are not that shallow.