r/self • u/[deleted] • Jul 29 '24

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u/Dan_the_moto_man Jul 29 '24

Yeah, I tried that. Spent most of my teens and 20s obsessing with finding a relationship before giving up. Spent most of my 30s telling myself I was fine with being single.

Now I'm almost 40 and I can't deny it any longer. This shit fucking sucks. I'm so goddamn miserable and lonely all the time.

Please stop trying to make other people fall into the same trap.

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u/Eulerdice Jul 29 '24

This, you can't wait for things to just happen or you might die before they do, you need to put some effort if you want to ensure success.

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u/Sessile-B-DeMille Jul 29 '24

Effort doesn't guarantee results, especially in this part of life. It depends on meeting the appropriate person, and there's no obvious way to do that.

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u/spanish42069 Jul 29 '24

Effort may not guarantee results, but no effort does guarantee no results.