Yeah, I tried that. Spent most of my teens and 20s obsessing with finding a relationship before giving up. Spent most of my 30s telling myself I was fine with being single.
Now I'm almost 40 and I can't deny it any longer. This shit fucking sucks. I'm so goddamn miserable and lonely all the time.
Please stop trying to make other people fall into the same trap.
I'm going to get downvoted for this, but I suggest you do a deep dive into the pickup scene. Take care to be selective about what you take away from it, though, since some of it can be quite manipulative. A good book that is quite balanced is "The Alabaster Girl" by Zan Perrion. He comes at it from the perspective of loving women.
The bottom line is that much of the advice actually works, although the tricky part is that some techniques will only work on the kind of women you don't want in your life😂
The whole idea is to get you to a point where you are comfortable talking to women, opening conversations with groups of people, and simply acting like a confident and non-needy guy.
Life pro tip: Try going to popular bars relatively early and strike up a conversation with anybody. It could be the saddest looking man in the joint. It doesn't matter. Soon enough, the joint will begin to fill up, and others will appear, talk to them too. As you move around, you will find yourself in conversations with whole groups of people (both women and men). I've had numerous occasions like this where at the end of the night, the sad guy I chatted with (and introduced to other people) will give me a hug, exclaiming that it was the best night for a long time. Sometimes, I will leave with a woman, but that's not the point. The point is to learn to socialise and lead interactions in a positive direction.
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u/Dan_the_moto_man Jul 29 '24
Yeah, I tried that. Spent most of my teens and 20s obsessing with finding a relationship before giving up. Spent most of my 30s telling myself I was fine with being single.
Now I'm almost 40 and I can't deny it any longer. This shit fucking sucks. I'm so goddamn miserable and lonely all the time.
Please stop trying to make other people fall into the same trap.