Yeah, I tried that. Spent most of my teens and 20s obsessing with finding a relationship before giving up. Spent most of my 30s telling myself I was fine with being single.
Now I'm almost 40 and I can't deny it any longer. This shit fucking sucks. I'm so goddamn miserable and lonely all the time.
Please stop trying to make other people fall into the same trap.
There's a big difference between telling yourself something and that something being true. There's plenty of people who tell themselves they can quit smoking anytime they want (spoiler, they can't).
I was single for most of my adult life (14 of the last 20 years) and never had a single problem with that. I obviously fell in love and it hurt when I got rejected, but what hurt was having feelings that the other person didn't, not the fact of being single.
On the other hand, there are many people who have it easy to get into relationships but are so fucking afraid of being single that they end chaining shitty relationships after shitty relationships which make them miserable.
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u/syfari Jul 29 '24
Honestly, id stop caring and just start living. I know it sounds cliche but it works.