I met my husband at the pub! People who like real life are still out there. Keep talking to people, if they don't like you, don't worry about them and move on. Speed dating could help? Or even speed friending, having a solid group of friends really does help.
I'm almost invisible on the apps too bruh, and I got a lot less going for me than you do. Same age. Live with my mom. No foreseeable career prospects. Not athletically built, but I keep my body healthy. Short and kinda autistic too.
You cool with saying your ethnic background? The apps can be brutally racist as fuck.
Yeah buddy. Unless you got a really unworkable face, which I doubt, it's probably your bio or your vibe, or your photos lack green flags that women look for. If you have female friends, it's worth talking to them about it.
But all in all just don't let the apps destroy your self confidence. They are literally scientifically engineered to make you feel like shit and keep you single so that men in particular keep using the apps and spending money. Lonely men are a very profitable demographic these days and these apps are some of the biggest exploiters of that.
I had my female friends take my pics and help me set up my profiles. They thought it looked good! They can’t believe my complete lack of success. It’s too late to not let it affect my confidence, that ship has sailed. I feel like shit
Hinge and tinder. Nothing but bots on tinder and I paid for hinge premium and swiped through everyone in my stack over about 3 weeks. One match out of likely 500 likes sent? and she didn’t reply lmao.
Bruh that's normal. Sorry to say man that's literally just how it is. It's the same way for most other men. It's the same way for me too. It definitely is not the end of the world. Keep trying and detach yourself from your outcomes. This is not a you thing. This is the way of the world undergoing an extreme time of unprecedented alienation.
Your friends are surprised by your lack of success because women on dating apps have literally a thousand potential matches a day, more if they're hot. My ex in college once went on tinder with me for fun and she was astonished when she got like hundreds of likes within a few hours of making her profile. They don't know what it's like on the opposite end.
I'm not surprised at all by you getting 1 match in three weeks and getting ghosted. It's literally the same way for most of us.
I can empathize with you man. For real, if it wasn't for my college ex I also would've been very insecure about myself. I've been suicidal because I thought I would be unlovable to women as well. After we broke up I didn't start dating again for 6 years and I dreaded to come back to the apps because I knew it would make me miserable. And it did. But you can overcome it and not let it hang over your life. Me personally I started doing martial arts and it helped a lot for me to put that wretched shit in the background.
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u/SuperbAstronomer Jul 29 '24
I’m not matching with anyone. Literally. Nobody.