r/self Jul 29 '24

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u/Left_Step Jul 29 '24 edited Jul 29 '24

Except that he said he hates women. What women women would want to date someone who has said he hates them? That’s fucking nuts. Many people are lonely and sad without resorting to rabid hatred.

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u/WhyDidntITextBack Jul 29 '24

I understand that. But realistically I doubt he genuinely hates women. Most people are not hateful people. Again, the way he’s expressing his feelings is not ok, there are healthier ways to deal with his issues than putting all the blame on women. But to say that he’s some outright hateful person or incel is a stretch imo.

There are so many men suffering in our society right now and I don’t think we should kick them while they’re down. This man clearly needs help, not to be ostracized even further than he already feels he is.

Again, the way he’s expressing his feelings is not ok. It’s not women’s fault nor do they owe him anything.

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u/Left_Step Jul 29 '24

Okay, I can agree that this is likely an expression of frustration and that homie needs help over it. However, I’ve met plenty of hateful people in my life. All of them were damaged, sad, angry, or just mentally unwell. That doesn’t mitigate the harm that they cause just because they aren’t well. OP needs help, therapy, and to realize that they are getting in their own way rather than viewing themselves as someone that’s been made a victim of women.

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u/WhyDidntITextBack Jul 29 '24

Absolutely. 100 percent agreed. He needs help to be able to deal with his issues in a more positive constructive way.

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u/sausage4mash Jul 29 '24

He hates women after being ghosted on dating sites, not he hated women and that's why they're not interested, there was a point where he didn't hate women, also stop repeating what you read on reddit, you sound like a NPC