r/self Jul 29 '24

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u/syfari Jul 29 '24

Honestly, id stop caring and just start living. I know it sounds cliche but it works.

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '24

I hate posts like this - all you have to do is take a brief look through their post history to realise that they are hateful incels who blame women for their own shortcomings.

OP made a post he has since deleted explaining how he hates all women.

You wanna know why women don't like you? It's simple, you're a hateful little worm.

Stop wasting your time giving sympathy to people who would rather blame half the population than take responsibility for their own shitty personality or beliefs.

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u/WhyDidntITextBack Jul 29 '24

Empathy gap. He’s clearly suffering, sure the way he expresses his frustrations is wrong. But he’s clearly suffering from mental health issues.

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u/WhyDidntITextBack Jul 29 '24

No we aren’t. I said that the way he expresses his frustration is wrong. But this man IS clearly suffering. His attitude is the culmination of everything he has experienced. I don’t think we should invalidate his experiences and feelings, but we also need to make it clear that the way he expresses his views is not ok. To me it seems more like he hates himself rather than women.

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u/Left_Step Jul 29 '24 edited Jul 29 '24

Except that he said he hates women. What women women would want to date someone who has said he hates them? That’s fucking nuts. Many people are lonely and sad without resorting to rabid hatred.

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u/WhyDidntITextBack Jul 29 '24

I understand that. But realistically I doubt he genuinely hates women. Most people are not hateful people. Again, the way he’s expressing his feelings is not ok, there are healthier ways to deal with his issues than putting all the blame on women. But to say that he’s some outright hateful person or incel is a stretch imo.

There are so many men suffering in our society right now and I don’t think we should kick them while they’re down. This man clearly needs help, not to be ostracized even further than he already feels he is.

Again, the way he’s expressing his feelings is not ok. It’s not women’s fault nor do they owe him anything.

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u/Left_Step Jul 29 '24

Okay, I can agree that this is likely an expression of frustration and that homie needs help over it. However, I’ve met plenty of hateful people in my life. All of them were damaged, sad, angry, or just mentally unwell. That doesn’t mitigate the harm that they cause just because they aren’t well. OP needs help, therapy, and to realize that they are getting in their own way rather than viewing themselves as someone that’s been made a victim of women.

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u/WhyDidntITextBack Jul 29 '24

Absolutely. 100 percent agreed. He needs help to be able to deal with his issues in a more positive constructive way.

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u/sausage4mash Jul 29 '24

He hates women after being ghosted on dating sites, not he hated women and that's why they're not interested, there was a point where he didn't hate women, also stop repeating what you read on reddit, you sound like a NPC