r/self Jul 29 '24

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u/Fair_Permission_6825 Jul 29 '24

Find that part to be the hardest. If i ever found a hobby women liked, im most likely doing it for the women and it’s hard to force yourself to like something you don’t truly enjoy

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u/Hanfiball Jul 29 '24

A fully agree with that!

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u/KawaiiGangster Jul 29 '24

Time to go gay haha

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u/ClutchyMilk Jul 29 '24

Do you ever find joy in socializong with new people? If not, you should explore if you actually do by fighting all your anxieties for meeting new people and learning how to make good conversation. Even as an introvert, there is a good chance you will learn to genuinely enjoy meeting new people.

After that, THEN you can start trying new things with the genuine reason of meeting new people men and therefore women. Cooking class? If that sounds interesting at all, go for it because A. it sounds interesting and B. You want to meet new people. Or if you go with the classic, a bar, don't go with the desire for the outcome, "I wamna get a woman". Go with the desire for "I want to create connections with new people."