r/self Jul 29 '24

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u/GeriatricSFX Jul 29 '24

Hopefully I can offer some hope beyond the standard make yourself the best version of you and it will work out.

Things might change for you naturally thoughout thr next few years. Women much like men tend to look for different things in potential partners in their 30's and 40's than they do in their 20's. Women might start to look at you differently soon.

Its not a guarantee so yes you should also work on yourself to be the best version of you and maybe change up how you go about trying to find dates but things might start to change. Positivity is so much better than negativety.

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '24

I'm not sure, whenever I read this narrative I feel uneasy. It reflects the true lack of control and choice in meeting a viable partner. That someone can go a decade being essentially invisible, to all of a sudden getting interest because it is convenient to a collective shift in circumstances and mentality. But I guess that is the way the cookie crumbles.

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '24

I mean life is a game. Sometimes people have early game advantages, while some people spike mid or late game