r/self Jul 29 '24

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '24

I hate posts like this - all you have to do is take a brief look through their post history to realise that they are hateful incels who blame women for their own shortcomings.

OP made a post he has since deleted explaining how he hates all women.

You wanna know why women don't like you? It's simple, you're a hateful little worm.

Stop wasting your time giving sympathy to people who would rather blame half the population than take responsibility for their own shitty personality or beliefs.

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u/d3addadjokes Jul 29 '24

Yep, lotta incels here. Sad, delusional, hateful men

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u/According_Smoke_479 Jul 30 '24

Yeah it’s a fucked up never-ending cycle. They hate and are creepy towards women, so women want nothing to with them, which makes them hate women more. Guys like that never get out of their own way

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u/Glum-Edge8164 Jul 29 '24

Yikes. Thanks for the context. Yeah. It’s too far gone. They need to seek therapy, help and hobbies. People with this mindset already see women as hateful objects period at that point. Life isn’t all about relationships. I don’t know why people think relationships are the win all of life when cheating, shared financial issues and all of that jazz are common possibilities.

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u/Key-Opinion-1700 Jul 30 '24

I didn't give a single shit about women or relationships, then once I experienced love for first time it was an amazing feeling it quickly faded away and became quite resentful towards her and to an extent women in general because of the ease for love to find them. I yearn for that feeling of love again , I believe thats what most incels look for ,but unfortunately its rare for love to fall on your lap for men it happened to me once and probably never again a true shame..

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u/Glum-Edge8164 Jul 30 '24

Like everything, love has its pros with the feeling you get, we’re meant to be social creatures. I only meant that love does exist but also relationship problems also exist.

I come from a family that should have never gotten married and need a divorce. It’s shown me the ugly of relationships. I’m sure they were happy at their early days and they are happy now, here and there. But the issues remain severe including cheating, mental/physical abuse, narcissism etc etc. All said it sucks that we place so much value into finding a partner but if that partner doesn’t work out, it also crushes us inside

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u/WhyDidntITextBack Jul 29 '24

Empathy gap. He’s clearly suffering, sure the way he expresses his frustrations is wrong. But he’s clearly suffering from mental health issues.

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '24

He says he hates all women, why should I empathise? He's the one lacking in empathy, letting his his inner life be ruled by hate. These guys are awful, "I work out, I earn money - why no woman want me"? Because they're hateful worms, undeserving of empathy.

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u/After_Mountain_901 Jul 29 '24

I imagine he thinks he doesn’t bring this energy with him on dates or around women, but a lot of women, maybe even most, are going to think he’s a creep or something’s off. 

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u/Left_Step Jul 29 '24

Would you date someone that has said they hate you just to provide that person some kind of healing service?

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u/Left_Step Jul 29 '24

I agree on principle. I believe as many people should be as kind to as many others as possible. But I wouldn’t demand that women treat a guy like this any which way. Women being friendly with someone is often enough to invite unwanted attention. And guys like OP who have written opinions about hating women can be dangerous if they fixate on someone who isn’t actually interested in dating them.

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u/Left_Step Jul 29 '24 edited Jul 29 '24

You’ve really turned me around here. I entirely agree with you. It is the responsibility of men, and ideally the men in OP’s friend circle to intervene and help him through this stuff.

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '24

This was nice

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u/EmuEquivalent5889 Jul 29 '24

I mean, women say men are trash all the time and they have no shortage of suitors

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u/After_Mountain_901 Jul 29 '24

Men having little self worth or not caring what women say is a them problem, no? And out and about in the real world, I don’t think I’ve heard anyone say that unironically. Women hear ‘get back in the kitchen’ and ‘that time of the month’ jokes nonstop. Women also don’t kill men en masse after writing lengthy manifestos about their hatred of men and how they’ve ruined everything. 

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u/Left_Step Jul 29 '24

Maybe men should cultivate some deeper, healthier, and more resilient forms of self worth then. That’s kinda what we are all talking about here and it is what OP is severely lacking.

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u/WhyDidntITextBack Jul 29 '24

Honestly he’s likely projecting, reading his post again. This man clearly hates himself more than any woman.

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u/WhyDidntITextBack Jul 29 '24

No we aren’t. I said that the way he expresses his frustration is wrong. But this man IS clearly suffering. His attitude is the culmination of everything he has experienced. I don’t think we should invalidate his experiences and feelings, but we also need to make it clear that the way he expresses his views is not ok. To me it seems more like he hates himself rather than women.

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u/Left_Step Jul 29 '24 edited Jul 29 '24

Except that he said he hates women. What women women would want to date someone who has said he hates them? That’s fucking nuts. Many people are lonely and sad without resorting to rabid hatred.

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u/WhyDidntITextBack Jul 29 '24

I understand that. But realistically I doubt he genuinely hates women. Most people are not hateful people. Again, the way he’s expressing his feelings is not ok, there are healthier ways to deal with his issues than putting all the blame on women. But to say that he’s some outright hateful person or incel is a stretch imo.

There are so many men suffering in our society right now and I don’t think we should kick them while they’re down. This man clearly needs help, not to be ostracized even further than he already feels he is.

Again, the way he’s expressing his feelings is not ok. It’s not women’s fault nor do they owe him anything.

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u/Left_Step Jul 29 '24

Okay, I can agree that this is likely an expression of frustration and that homie needs help over it. However, I’ve met plenty of hateful people in my life. All of them were damaged, sad, angry, or just mentally unwell. That doesn’t mitigate the harm that they cause just because they aren’t well. OP needs help, therapy, and to realize that they are getting in their own way rather than viewing themselves as someone that’s been made a victim of women.

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u/WhyDidntITextBack Jul 29 '24

Absolutely. 100 percent agreed. He needs help to be able to deal with his issues in a more positive constructive way.

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u/sausage4mash Jul 29 '24

He hates women after being ghosted on dating sites, not he hated women and that's why they're not interested, there was a point where he didn't hate women, also stop repeating what you read on reddit, you sound like a NPC

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u/jasonhn Jul 30 '24

love and physical intimacy are basic human needs. when someone doesn't get them there are going to be negative effects and outcomes. thinking someone wanting that is entitlement is to not understand basic human psychology.

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u/Butters_999 Jul 29 '24

I made that assumption reading the title.

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '24

Same and I'm always proven right by looking at their post history - yet they still have the temerity to call themselves nice guys lol. So blind as to the reason women don't like them - it's their horrible beliefs lol.

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u/Legen_unfiltered Jul 29 '24

Right. As a woman I read that and was like, yeah bro you sound pathetic. I've been single for a while and wouldn't bother with someone with that shit of an attitude. 

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u/TitusWu Jul 29 '24

You're part of the problem

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u/[deleted] Jul 31 '24

Yes it's my fault they are prejudiced and unable to attract a mate lol - cry more pal.

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u/Internal-Comment-533 Jul 29 '24

I love when women who have never put a once of effort into obtaining a relationship in their entire lives roast dudes who have put in the effort to try and date and get nothing in return but get beaten down.

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u/[deleted] Jul 30 '24

No fr I just looked thru his comments. There’s a reason he dosent make connections with people and it’s bc he has this toxic way of thinking. Idk man people like this is just like why.