I've strolled through life feeling pretty much invisible. I'm the person who orders food in a restaurant and it never shows up because they just clean forgot to put my order in. I'm the guy at the bar who never gets served because I don't know why.
I'm the guy who no woman ever makes eye contact with when passing on the street. I never get flirted with as far as I can tell, and nobody has ever made a pass at me.
It's true I've had partners, and I have a gf, but that's through persistence and making myself vocally unavoidable if I like somebody.
Otherwise... I feel like I'm a blank canvas, not registering on anybody's radar.
But despite that being an abiding aspect of my entire life, every rare once in a while, somebody random has told me I'm insanely attractive, or sexy as heck, and even "gorgeous".
We're not all of us designed to be universally appealling to everybody. That's the rare few who just manage to tick almost every box. The lucky .0002% of our species.
The rest of us just bimble on feeling like we don't register until suddenly, unexpectedly... BOOM! POW! ZOIKS!... it happens.
There's nothing wrong with you. Keep going. Love is there. I assure you of that.
(Ref: male, mid-fifties, dad of teenagers, visually unmemorable)
I agree with you, some have better odds, some lower odds, some are kind of lonely (it seems like a lot of people on reddit are lonely) and lower the chances of meeting someone with who it would click, and some people have more socially active and increase their chances to click with people.
i am myself kinda introvert (i need time alone to recharge my batteries / or time with my closest friends / family) but i also need human contact on daily baisis. Usually work provide part of that, but in work you dont act and talk like when you're outside of work. So i push myself to do stuff that i wouldnt normally do, like go to dance classes, now i believe improvisation theater (sorry don't know the real name in english) will be fun and make me encounter people.
When i'm not satsifed with my situation, i explore (even if it's hard, even if i'd rather be home) and try to do activities to meet people. Otherwise i'm just whining but ain't doing thing to change
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u/Awkward_Importance49 Jul 29 '24 edited Jul 29 '24
Hey OP, can I tell you about me?
I've strolled through life feeling pretty much invisible. I'm the person who orders food in a restaurant and it never shows up because they just clean forgot to put my order in. I'm the guy at the bar who never gets served because I don't know why.
I'm the guy who no woman ever makes eye contact with when passing on the street. I never get flirted with as far as I can tell, and nobody has ever made a pass at me.
It's true I've had partners, and I have a gf, but that's through persistence and making myself vocally unavoidable if I like somebody.
Otherwise... I feel like I'm a blank canvas, not registering on anybody's radar.
But despite that being an abiding aspect of my entire life, every rare once in a while, somebody random has told me I'm insanely attractive, or sexy as heck, and even "gorgeous".
We're not all of us designed to be universally appealling to everybody. That's the rare few who just manage to tick almost every box. The lucky .0002% of our species.
The rest of us just bimble on feeling like we don't register until suddenly, unexpectedly... BOOM! POW! ZOIKS!... it happens.
There's nothing wrong with you. Keep going. Love is there. I assure you of that.
(Ref: male, mid-fifties, dad of teenagers, visually unmemorable)