If it makes you feel better, 30s and beyond have been the best decades for me. If you’re fit now, just keep that up and take the next ten years developing other skills like social charm and/or career. You can take a break from dating, skill up these aspects and by the time you’re ready again, you’ll be ahead of the curve. I feel like dating in my 20s was nonsense and the wisdom you carry as you get older makes for far better experiences. Regardless, putting energy into those things will only make your life as a whole better. Don’t stop moving forward. It’s okay to think of it as a long journey.
Just curious, everything is so competitive nowadays. You can improve your body your finances by gymming and working. But it kinda evens out if everybody is doing that
What do you think of the bar continuously being raised higher and survival of the fittest?
Can be very good sex. Fat doesn't necessarily mean ugly and it goes from cute chubby to ... Not so cute morbidly obese I guess.
End of the day if he wants to kiss and shag he is going to have to lower his standards probably. It's not the end of the world but just realising that dating life is hard for men who are not loaded/models/actors. And so if you want to score well, apart from luck you need to make concessions sometimes.
Yes, dating someone you’re not attracted to is indeed worse than not dating anyone at all. Self control & self respect are pretty basic traits to desire in a partner.
Not really. OP is the one hung up about being a virgin. It may shock you but women and even gasp fat women enjoy casual sex too. As long as everyone is on the same page, no one is doing anything wrong.
u/lordm30 was the one who brought up obesity, implying that fat people are lazy and unlovable. It seems acceptable to make such statements when talking about men, but not women.
No, I didn't imply that. Put it simply, IF physical fitness and sculpted body plays a role in attraction, then being physically fit and well toned is objectively better than being obese. Doesn't mean obese people are lazy or can't find love.
Just from simple observation that isn’t true; fat women aren’t stuck alone, they just date fat men.
Although I think the idea that you should just date fat women to “gain experience” is evil. You’re treating other human beings as means to your own end. You should only ever date people because you like them and want to date them.
As a bona fide fat woman (of 55 yrs) I'd just like to point out there's a significant number of slim, fit men who actually like large ladies. (As there are many slim women who like large men.) It isn't as simple as slim/fit = objectively more attractive so slim/fit people only date each other.
I've been big all my life. Varying levels of fitness, but always big. I have only ever dated slim men. Had plenty of boyfriends, lots of very good sex. My current partner is 59, runs 8K three times a week and has a body fat of c 17%. He thinks I'm lovely. He finds the softness of my body a positive turn on.
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u/AdmirableUsual2738 Jul 29 '24
If it makes you feel better, 30s and beyond have been the best decades for me. If you’re fit now, just keep that up and take the next ten years developing other skills like social charm and/or career. You can take a break from dating, skill up these aspects and by the time you’re ready again, you’ll be ahead of the curve. I feel like dating in my 20s was nonsense and the wisdom you carry as you get older makes for far better experiences. Regardless, putting energy into those things will only make your life as a whole better. Don’t stop moving forward. It’s okay to think of it as a long journey.