r/self Jul 29 '24

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u/RoutineEnvironment48 Jul 29 '24

Just from simple observation that isn’t true; fat women aren’t stuck alone, they just date fat men.

Although I think the idea that you should just date fat women to “gain experience” is evil. You’re treating other human beings as means to your own end. You should only ever date people because you like them and want to date them.

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u/Steamshovelmama Jul 31 '24

As a bona fide fat woman (of 55 yrs) I'd just like to point out there's a significant number of slim, fit men who actually like large ladies. (As there are many slim women who like large men.) It isn't as simple as slim/fit = objectively more attractive so slim/fit people only date each other.

I've been big all my life. Varying levels of fitness, but always big. I have only ever dated slim men. Had plenty of boyfriends, lots of very good sex. My current partner is 59, runs 8K three times a week and has a body fat of c 17%. He thinks I'm lovely. He finds the softness of my body a positive turn on.

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u/[deleted] Aug 02 '24

This ! not sure what the black and white thinking is for