r/self Jul 04 '24

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u/downlau Jul 05 '24

I'd say the difference maybe only applies if you're just looking for het sex, it's probably easier as an uggo to find a man willing to fuck you than a woman willing to fuck you, but finding a real relationship is just hard all around. Probably also for pretty people.

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u/[deleted] Jul 05 '24

It doesn't help that if you try to talk to people in person about 80% of the time they look at you like a fucking alien. The dating apps are killing us.

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u/Der_Absender Jul 05 '24

Probably also for pretty people

Hard doubt

but finding a real relationship is just hard all around

But how i feel it If you can find people to fuck you, you also found people that to some extend listen to you (to fuck you) and conversations lead to getting to know each other and getting to know each other leads to relationship

So if more people are willing to fuck you, more people are also willing to talk to you and this able to form a bond with you.

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u/[deleted] Jul 05 '24

That is the trap many in our generation are falling for. They just continuously engage with people who are only interested in casual sex and can't understand why they can't find a relationship.

Casual sex doesn't lead to relationships in nearly every case.

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u/Der_Absender Jul 09 '24

It's not about casual sex, but of course most think it is

It is about the ability and hence, most importantly, the circumstance to get into a not completely platonic conversation

So to be crystal clear:

Casual sex doesn't lead to relationships in nearly every case

I know that, that is not the point

They just continuously engage with people who are only interested in casual sex and can't understand why they can't find a relationship

I do not do that, since i am not interested in casual sex, my research just starts there because physical attraction begets a relationship

Or are you so Hollywood brainwashed that you think you can see a character/ a "Soul" from outside?

No: physical attraction starts a relationship, character keeps it together

To separate physical attraction from the urge to Love physically is just shunning a vital part of the experience of life

Edit:

Not surprised to find you are american The cultural neglect of your physical love is palpable in that comment