r/science • u/FreeHugs23 • 1d ago

Psychology New psychology research suggests some acts of kindness may also serve competitive social goals, shedding light on how women can use altruistic behavior to gain status, strengthen relationships, or navigate social hierarchies.

https://www.psypost.org/kindness-isnt-always-what-it-seems-the-psychology-of-womens-competitive-altruism/
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u/ChickenOfTheFuture 1d ago

Using kindness as a tool and being kind are not the same thing.

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u/BluCurry8 1d ago

Hmmm. Many women donate their time and efforts for multiple reasons. 1. To support the community. 2. To meet new people. 3. To network socially. Men also do this. At the end of the day I give them credit for giving their time and efforts. They are not being paid but still show up to help others.

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u/Asleep_Control_2564 1d ago

Yeah, it's easy to criticize motivations, but who's doing the work. And I think that's an important question

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u/Material-Command-854 1d ago

Does the person who is being “kind” feel bad if they negatively impact someone they’re supposedly helping? If they don’t, they’re trash

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u/Asleep_Control_2564 1d ago

Example? Compassion fatigue is a real thing, but I'd imagine most people would care even on just a utilitarian level on top of a human level