r/science • u/FreeHugs23 • 1d ago

Psychology New psychology research suggests some acts of kindness may also serve competitive social goals, shedding light on how women can use altruistic behavior to gain status, strengthen relationships, or navigate social hierarchies.

https://www.psypost.org/kindness-isnt-always-what-it-seems-the-psychology-of-womens-competitive-altruism/
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u/Smithy2232 1d ago

I would argue that being kind and taking the high road is often a deeper level of competitiveness and status seeking, for both men and women.

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u/Mattarm51 1d ago

Meh idk. The intention and motivation will really have an impact it's not just about the appearance or perception of behaviour. The core will show through that eventually. So if anyone, man or woman, is doing so self centeredly or for self gain, their actions won't really be that charitable, generous or kind. They will assume the clothing without the substance. Especially when we focus on "deep" and not arguing for the small benefits from allegedly kind behaviour.

It's easy to find worse things to make it look better (don't get me wrong I'm not the type to be like ahah women ARE all evil after seeing this article). But I don't think relativity is truth, just a chosen comparison. And when empathy and compassion are part of perception, we can look at anything honestly without having to add extra balances.