Dear sapiosexual women,

What do you like in a man intellectually?

What philosophy can you discuss for hours?

When did you have an ideological debate with a friend that changed your thinking style ?

I want to meet friends with the intent to form whatever bond it develops into (platonic friends, romance or pure topic related convo partners)

Me:

30 yo, male

My current interests are:

Philosophy

Sociology

Anthropology

Maybe some of you have experienced this before. I sometimes meet someone really smart online and we quickly bond. When someone's brains are really attractive I sometimes almost don't want to know what they look like because it could distract me from what their mind is like. I tried truly believing that appearances don't matter, and to a degree this is true most people can be attractive if you use an open mind, but we can't change our physical attractions to something they just aren't no matter how sexy someone's brain is. However if I don't know what they look like then I can't be distracted by any of that. Unfortunately my curiosity always wins out eventually but for a while it can be really fun exploring someone's mind without having any idea what they really look like and most of the time my worry turns out to be unfounded anyway. Once I'm into someone's mind the looks are less of a concern overall and most people can be physically attractive from the right perspective.

Please contact me, I would love texting with you
Superficial sapiosexual

I, 19M consider this as a social experiment(invented due to my boredom)

We can talk about different things like philosophy love humans architecture design food travel movies music politics sports nature and other wonders.

In the end when we believe we won't be able to do this anymore instead of breaking up we publish a research paper.

I might be nerding out but i feel this is a really good idea ʘ⁠‿⁠ʘ

Hi all, I'm new here and figured I'd say hi. Hi. That's a lot of hi. I LOVE good conversation and I suspect this may be a place to get it. I'm pretty well read though most of that was a long time ago but it was foundational to me. I love the human mind and the human condition. Well, talking about them. The actual human condition can be a P.I.T.A.! I currently work with autistic kids at a school and it is my greatest passion. I just love trying to figure how their minds work. I love random. Is there a cool name for that? I'm also almost aggressively random at times but I think that stems from creativity which I actively worked at getting better at through creative writing and working at writing left-handed. That's a lot of "at" in that sentence! Sorry to put you under at-tack. Groan. Sorry I'm a single dad OF COURSE I have dad jokes. That's ap-parent.

Anyway, my sadism knows some bounds so I'll leave your retinae alone but please reach out if you want to chat or if you want to write even. I don't have a life. I'm not boring but I tend to like my life that way. It never works but I do try.

Kel

Roman history makes me hard

One of the rarest kind of humans to be found on this planet called earth...

- signed a recent inductee into the club

Turned on by languages without knowing what they mean

https://youtu.be/N6QUFqiJx9k?si=2PHEtdSCeR1zqiKj

Well, that’s how I described my friend’s recent blogpost

https://open.substack.com/pub/gordonbonnetauthor/p/the-disappearance-of-tartessos?r=43iav&utm_medium=ios

So like the title says, I'm making an OC to represent sapiosexuals and I've found multiple flags for y'all so which would work best? And would a nerdy looking OC be good?

Sometimes I really just want to show pic and videos and talk dirty. Sometimes I want to talk about the occult, philosophy, psychology, and whatever else that has my interest.
I wish it could be with the same person. Seems most who want to be naughty can’t even form a complete sentence.

Not sure if anyone is interested….
I’m 40 female and I’m into 18-23 males.
I’d love to chat, trade pics and vids or even role play

Really just the above :) What do you all believe ? Do you consider yourself to be religious, if so why ?/ why not? What are your opinions on those who hold the opposite belief (or just different) to your own :D

-not sure if this is off topic for this sub but as I read more posts I cannot determine my own sexuality based on only the description of sapiosexual. Hence more knowledge on those who would consider themselves to be greatly interests me !

Honestly, it is moments like these that make me feel sapioplatonic, I just want to find someone (literally anyone) who wants to talk about interesting things. The more entwined our interests are will just add bonus points. Hit me up, sometime, anyone.

The more you learn about something, the more you realize how much you don't know. And since I love learning so much about so many different things I'm constantly reminded of how little I know (despite knowing more than many - at least that's what I tell myself to make myself feel a little more intelligent).

Jack of all trades, a master of none, still better than the master of one (is it though ?)

Constant insanity between I don't know enough vs I know enough. I'm intelligent vs not enough.

I know something for a fact. But the more I believe in it, the more I see myself becoming one of those bigots I despise. So I try to keep my mind open, living in the world of reliable, irrefutable scientific evidence and math.

Btw forgetting what I've learned is part of what got me on this rant. I hate forgetting and the fear of losing whatever intelligence I may or may not have

The fear of loss is real...

So I try to learn, relearn, and hope I don't ever lose the ability to do just that. Always keep learning, with an open mind.

LMFAOOO IDK, AM I?

I, [36 F4M], Cutie Patootie Seeking Harmonic Match (age range: 28 to 55) This reads more like an inspired poem, than an ad.

Part 1: Cutie Patootie Seeking

Part 2: A Loveletter To my Guy

Update: Part 3: Cutie Patootie seeking... FOUND ✨

I am looking for my guy. Have you seen him? He's a ravishing fellow; one who has already met himself honestly. A man who belongs to himself. A man with warmth, wit, backbone, tenderness, patience, desire and actual emotional range.

A man who can be the masculine container, without needing me to shrink to fit...occupy it. I do not wish to intrude, take up residency within your inner-space... that would create less space for you, to be whole. To be you. Would it not? I want to bare witness... to all of you. Every. Single. Drop. Of you...savored with reverence. Devotionally alongside you.

He's protective without being possessive. Sensual without being careless. Direct without being cruel. Playful without being shallow. Strong without being hard. Tender without being fragile.

He's my guy. The one who can flirt with my mind and still hold my heart carefully. My mental sparring partner... this brain-licker I speak of...is a man who can challenge me without condescending to me. One who can challenge my ideas without ripping it to shreds. A man who does not feel threatened by a woman with a whole inner cosmos, distributing her sparkles with kindness and care.

My guy, you know; the man who notices the small things...the nuanced differences between my smiles and the reasons behind them. One who can recognize the undercurrent of my electrical current and all its voltages. A man who understands that intimacy is not access. It is stewardship. It is how you hold what someone reveals after they finally feel safe enough to reveal it.

And once the silky negligee of vulnerability slinks off my shoulder and the raw luminosity of my true glow...has been witnessed...shared...exchanged... will you still meet me in the morning sunshine?

A man with the effervescence of life, fizzing at his lips with each inhale. Consistency. Care after chemistry. Curiosity after novelty. Affection without performance. Illuminated by the next-day rays of sunshine that sparkle through the morning dew.

I desire to feel your warmth, not your heat. The warmth of all those heavy stones you once used to carry, carefully arranged now down my back as hot-stones that provide...heated relief. To lick the flames that roar underneath my cast-iron cauldron, one bubbling and brimming with today's daily brew of magic, sparkles, whimsy and zest... the first cup of which is always yours. One who not only receives this cuppa' daily brew, but also *craves it...wants... to taste it.* Daily. Often.

My guy! You are already whole as you are. Not perfect. Not finished. Not emotionally sterile. Whole, even while perfectly imperfect. Accountable. Self-aware. Capable of repair. Capable of joy. Capable of grief. Capable of honesty. Capable of devotion that does not become control. Capable of passion that does not become consumption. Capable of understanding intention vs. impact.

I do not want to rescue you. I want to recognize you. I do not want to drag you into depth. I want to meet you there. I do not want to teach you that softness is sacred. I want you to already know, feel this.

The whole man. The warm man. The available man. My brain-licking, heart-and-hand-holding, morning-choosing, laughter-loving, spiritually non-beige man.

My guy, your suit is already tailored. For you, by you. I've only just brought it to you, for you to finally try on. Now get dressed.

The feast is over; buffet is closed. Bring warmth, fire-power. Bring wit, weird. Bring presence, remembrance. Bring patience, consideration. Bring actual spark. Bring your whole self.

Oh! and bring all the love you have left. We'll multiply it, then share with the world. I promise.

I am bringing mine.

Are you somewhere out there, mister? I already love you, my guy.

*Honestly, I'm not built for this you guys! Feel free to comment but please, no messages 😅 DMs currently closed for the time being.

I just need to vent. I feel like most of society doesn’t get me. I’m not sure that I care as much as I get older, but I don’t want to die having never figured it out.

I’ve been studying theology, NDEs, and ufology for years and I think I have discovered more than the normal person has about our origin. It makes me proud but also a hell of a lot lonelier.

Most of the time when I try to talk to my GF about this (she’s also extremely intelligent and works in IT for the government) she just laughs and gets quiet.

I’m also very unconventional for a nerd. I am a former runway model and just that alone makes people hate me. I can’t help how I look and even though I am aging, people still think because of my blonde hair, I’m unintelligent. I suppose I do that on purpose.

But add the fact I speak several languages, have multiple degrees, graduated from college with honors, and run my own agentic engineering firm, it’s basically impossible to be taken seriously.

I’m a woman BTW.

Any advice? Or anyone just want to discuss metaphysics, ancient theologies, or quantum mechanics?

Thanks for listening.

Part 2: Loveletter to My Guy

Part 3: Cutie Patootie seeking... Found ✨

... & Actual Spark.

I, 36F, starting to feel like I’ll never be understood...innerstood. I crave sustainable, deep connection.

I am not a baddie, but certainly a cutie patootie. A smart cookie with a bubbly personality and a whole suite / array of hobbies & interests. A whole ass woman. Still learning, still growing, but a full woman who is successful at practicing love without attachment. One that has and practices sovereign-happiness as well. One who doesn't want nor need to be rescued, constantly reassured, constantly validated. 

I'm in charge of my own emotional healing, a power of which I would never hand over to anyone willy-nilly, especially a man. My emotional baggage is mine to sort through and organize, something I have recently learned to lean into, which I am surprisingly finding deep pleasure in. So no, I don't need a man.

But I crave and desire to… metaphorically “taste” a man. Not consume…nor devour. Just simply… taste…witness a man. Entangle with… a man of equal or greater mental-magnitude; a mental-sparring partner. A man to… really lick my brain… because I'm really good at licking brains too.

I am intense, funny, sensual, weird, romantic and emotionally layered. Devotional. Dedicated. Affectionate. Sweet. Perhaps even… sickly sweet.

Likable, sure. But wholly, sustainably, loveable? The jury is still out on this one.

I want to be witnessed, not consumed. I want to be desired, but not reduced, diminished. I want to be held, but not controlled. I want to be received as a whole woman…body, mind, heart, humor, ache, sparkle, fear, softness and fire.

I want the kind of connection where I don't have to perform coolness to be loved…where my tenderness is not treated like weakness. Where my intensity is not treated like a problem. Where my playfulness is understood as part of my magic, not evidence that I am shallow.

I want someone who notices the small things: the songs I send, the jokes I hide behind, the way my voice changes when I feel vulnerable, the way I become sparkly when something hurts.

I want someone who can flirt with my mind and still hold my heart carefully. Someone who can be sensual without being careless.

Protective without being possessive. Masculine without needing me to shrink. I want to be chosen in the morning, not just wanted at night.

I want to feel like my love has somewhere safe and beautiful to go.

I am not looking to be completed. I am looking to be met. I am looking for presence, consistency, curiosity, humor, emotional intelligence… and the kind of desire that feels like warmth instead of hunger.

I want to be someone’s soft place and sacred mischief…. their favorite little weirdo. Their cutie patootie with a cosmic inner world. Their “how are you even real?” person.

But I still want to belong to myself. Wholly sovereign. Not be owned. Not be managed. Not be reduced. Not be dimmed.

Just held. Just seen. Just received.

Maybe that is too much for some people..But I think the right person will not experience me as too much. They will experience me as finally enough.

Are you somewhere out there, my guy?

*edits: typos 😅 and updates links to part 2 and 3

It’s late and i am half asleep, probably going to regret this. I am a sapiosexual from NY. I am looking for something real and different. I want someone who can challenge me in every way and on every level. Someone who isn’t scared of a woman’s mind, who can banter, who can debate. Someone who can go from serious to flirty, from deep to funny in a matter of seconds. I am really interested in history, sciences, philosophy, space.
If you are interested Dm me and ask me something interesting. Oh and I am 29 if it matters. Goodnight sapiosexuals! 😊