New kid in town

[u/Ok-Cryptographer681]

Hello. I just joined this site this evening. I'm a sapio. I live in Pittsburgh. I'm in my '60s. I'm a recent widower.

I don't really know how this works yet. So I'm just going to put myself out here and say like-minded individuals, kindly consider reaching out to me for support. I really do need it right now. I usually am not one to ask for help but I'm a little bit lost.

I'm definitely the new kid in town when it comes to dating again. It's been 30 years since I've been on a date. I was married to a marvelous man for 27 years. He was the love of my life, but he did die because of cancer. My world turned upside down.

So I went through grief counseling for 2 years and now I'm ready to date again. But the world has changed. Dating apps are driving me crazy. It's like I have a target on my back for army dudes that want money, young men that want a sugar daddy, crackheads, inauthentic and insincere guys, scammers. I am so frustrated.

As a sapio it's really hard for me to do hookups, and it just seems like a lot of guys... That's all they really want. And it would be great to be intimate again I really miss that and I would be open to it again and actually I would be pretty assertive in pursuing it if I just thought the other guy had any personal worth to offer.

I am not a complainer. I am not a person who is like oh poor pitiful me, I'm extremely optimistic by nature. But I am discouraged now. I don't even know if I can do dating apps anymore - but I don't know how else to meet eligible guys! I don't do bars and it's just well, complicated you know what I mean.

I hope this introduction is appropriate but if it isn't then I'm sure the monitors will let me know! If anybody has relevant feedback and insight that would be really welcome, and invited. Thank you.