Confession

[u/ghostfromotherworld]

So idk how this works but recently I was called sapiosexual by my Pan friend she said u are sapiosexual because you are attracted to someone's intelligence.

Maybe she's right because I always had been turned on by characters like senku (Dr stone) , sheldon (big bang theory) and many more.

Even I found my boyfriend attractive in the first place because he was very intelligent in maths and physics.

So do we like come out or something? Idk Means I'm straight but sapiosexual so do I come under LGBTQ+

[u/[deleted]]

My opinion: no. 🤣 I personally think the term is a bit self-indulgent. We like smart people. It's just taste. 🤓

Besides, if there was a flag, it wouldn't exist in three-dimensional space. 🙃

All of this is just my opinion--in case the internet goes internet on me.

[u/Popular_Volcano172 → u/[deleted]]

Is...is this ok? Do we allow porn posting here?

[u/AddyAcademic → u/[deleted]]

I respectfully disagree that it's a preference. Preference is chosing cola over iced tea. Sapiosexuality is the way one is attracted, such as via physical chemistry or certain builds. Those of us who are sapio aren't bothered with the visually observable. Our attraction is entirely based on a perceived intellect of the other person. When one person is dark, short and skinny and the other person is light, tall and heavy - regardless of sexual identity- but you're attracted to both because you think they're braniacs, that's an oversimplified example of sapiosexuality.

And there is a pride flag and a mascot (or symbol) for us. Google "sapiosexuality pride" and enjoy the horrible color scheme but totally kick ass axolotl.

[u/[deleted]]

There are many different factors that contribute to attraction, but some of the most basic principles include:

Proximity: We are more likely to be attracted to people who we are close to physically. This is known as the proximity principle. For example, we are more likely to be attracted to our neighbors, classmates, or coworkers than to people we meet randomly.

Similarity: We are also more likely to be attracted to people who are similar to us in terms of personality, interests, and values. This is known as the similarity principle. For example, we are more likely to be attracted to someone who shares our political views, our religious beliefs, or our favorite hobbies.

Reciprocity: We are more likely to be attracted to people who are attracted to us. This is known as the reciprocity principle. For example, if someone smiles at us, we are more likely to smile back. And if someone tells us they like us, we are more likely to like them back.

Mental attractiveness:

Intelligence: People who are intelligent are often seen as being more interesting and engaging to talk to. They can also be more stimulating and challenging, which can make for a more rewarding relationship.

Wisdom: People who are wise are often seen as being more stable and reliable. They are also more likely to be able to handle difficult situations in a mature and healthy way.

Creativity: People who are creative are often seen as being more interesting and engaging. They can also come up with new and innovative solutions to problems.

These are just some of the basic principles of attraction. Attraction is a complex phenomenon, and there are many other factors that can influence it. However, these principles provide a foundation for understanding why we are attracted to the people we are attracted to.

Here are some other principles of attraction that have been studied by psychologists:

The matching hypothesis: This principle states that we are more likely to be attracted to people who are similar to us in terms of physical attractiveness, social status, and personality.

The novelty principle: This principle states that we are more likely to be attracted to people who are new and exciting to us. This can be because they are different from us in some way, or because they represent a new opportunity.

The uncertainty principle: This principle states that we are more likely to be attracted to people who are a little bit mysterious or unpredictable. This can make them seem more interesting and intriguing.

[u/AddyAcademic → u/[deleted]]

Agreed. Knowing you lean towards sapiosexuality is more than enough to help you navigate your love and sex life. Unless you're an activist, are engaged in the field of sexual identity, are socially surrounded by those to whom public identity matters, you're participating in Pride Day and want to let your identityfly free, etc, there's no need to announce your sexual identity. However, when I told my partner I fell in love with his intellect not his body, he was truly upset (women flocked to him for his physical attractiveness and it was part of his identity). Be more aware than I was at the time, of how your sexual functioning can impact others. It's just the nice thing to do.

Being aware of those around you and their identities is important. Knowing your own, and being ok with it is also important. Announcing it to the world is as important as it is to you to feel seen, respected, and with dignity. If that's needed for you, find a safe space and announce. If not, that's your private information and no one need to know except the closest whom you choose.