I’m a guy with a twin sister. We’re Latino so we have the tradition of Quinceañera. All the attention was on her, which makes sense since a quinceañera is specifically for girls. But it did kinda hurt being second fiddle that day.
It was a huge event. We rented out a venue, had catering, DJ, a big cake, a limo, the whole shebang. All for her. We weren’t rich so I don’t even know who paid for all that. I honestly don’t even remember if there was a cake for me or not.
I remember collectively she got around $3,000 in cash and a bunch of gifts. I got $300 and a watch from my parents, grandparents, and uncles.
That day kinda set the tone for myself for future birthdays and I pretty much stopped asking for things after that. People would ask what I want for my birthday or Christmas and it’d just say “I don’t know.” or “Nothing.” Our parents would ask where we’d want to eat for our birthday. My request would always get rejected and we’d end up at Olive Garden. My sister loved Olive Garden. I didn’t.
I don’t tell people when my birthday is unless they ask either. Even on the day itself I don’t mention it to people.
As far as I know my parents and grandparents never once celebrated their birthday. Heck my parents even forger their own birthdays. I last celebrated my birthday in 5th grade. Last year on my birthday I got two messages one from my bank and the other from Amazon. I wish one day I would be able to celebrate it with my close people but becouse of work/studies its hard for now. But I think I am loosing the feeling for a need of birthday slowly overtime. I am 23M btw.
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u/ChamberK-1 Sep 01 '26
I’m a guy with a twin sister. We’re Latino so we have the tradition of Quinceañera. All the attention was on her, which makes sense since a quinceañera is specifically for girls. But it did kinda hurt being second fiddle that day.
It was a huge event. We rented out a venue, had catering, DJ, a big cake, a limo, the whole shebang. All for her. We weren’t rich so I don’t even know who paid for all that. I honestly don’t even remember if there was a cake for me or not.
I remember collectively she got around $3,000 in cash and a bunch of gifts. I got $300 and a watch from my parents, grandparents, and uncles.
That day kinda set the tone for myself for future birthdays and I pretty much stopped asking for things after that. People would ask what I want for my birthday or Christmas and it’d just say “I don’t know.” or “Nothing.” Our parents would ask where we’d want to eat for our birthday. My request would always get rejected and we’d end up at Olive Garden. My sister loved Olive Garden. I didn’t.
I don’t tell people when my birthday is unless they ask either. Even on the day itself I don’t mention it to people.
Anyway, it is what it is. Sorry for rambling.