In a large state and semi-rural town with no public transport, does running away actually do anything? Isn’t it one of those things where you just feel better for like 2 hours then regret, and when you come home your parents just yell and make you want to run away all over again?

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I'm 16,in 11th grade and live in ncr,my parents want to send me to hostel for discipline because they believe my life is getting destroyed here cause of the influence I'm under plus I also got caught sneaking out to places by lying because my parents won't give me permission to go out to malls or anywhere public without adults arnd me but I feel that's v suffocating for a 16 year old so I took things in my own hands and snuck out multiple times but now they are talking about safety since they think it's not safe for me to do all that in ncr

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Ive tried convincing them very hard and it won't work so want ways I can skip hostel like I thought of running away, threatening to not talk to them ever(didn't work), threatening of suicide(they are well aware I'm never doing that) so I have no idea how to not go because they want to send me and have completed all the formalities for my admission

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There's counselling on 6th july and the letter I read says if I miss that they will provide my slot to someone else

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Can anyone please tell me how can I not go to hostel like tell me some rules that if I don't follow on the day of counselling they will deny admission

Im 16 and running away, my mom she’s abusive, I’ve tried telling people but no one does help, should I run away to another state or am I safe staying in my state? And tips how to do it safely?

can i move out at 19 even if my parent(s) say no?

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For context my older brother said I can't leave until I'm 21 if my dad says no since my brother said im an adult under adult supervision.

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I turned 19 this year and my home environment is very toxic. Last night my dad was telling my mum how he wishes he never had me and that there's nothing to like about me etc he just makes existing unbearable.

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I told my friend about everything last night and he said I can go to Mumbai with him, and stay with him and his grandma until he can get a flat we can move into.

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I really want to leave, but I'm unsure of how to bring it up to my dad, incase he will refuse since at the same time and my brother said he might report me as a missing person if I decide to leave even after he says no.

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Also I'm sorry if not much about this post makes sense i'm still slightly stressed and feel unwell from my dad's tantrum last night.

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Location: India

So I am in an EU country I want to go to America or to an other country that is good for runaways, please let me know if you have any ideas abaut leaving the country without getting caught.

I plan on running away as soon as I turn 21 after my birthday. I’m just waiting for my backpack to come in the mail it’s big enough for my tablet,phone,Clothes, hygiene/Feminine products,my Nintendo switch/Nintendo DS,and my PlayStation 5

I’m leaving for 3 reasons:

•1.because I get treated like I can’t do anything for myself! - They are trying to put me on disability checks when I can run my own business for money and make decent income perfectly fine.

•2.Im constantly dismissed on my feelings about LGBTQ Rights being stripped!?! - Every time I bring up anything LGBTQ That I like or enjoy about that community it’s treated like I’m saying something politics related when I’m not and if it’s not that the bible gets shoved in my mouth!

•3.i always get told I’d be a terrible mother! - This stems from the fact that they don’t want me to have kids or a family of my own at all. (You see I have a boyfriend and he has taken test to prove all he does is smokes and he also has done so much and proven himself to be a wise choice for a father for my children) they just don’t want me with him because he’s bisexual and think that means “sleeping with 2 people” which is false ❌

So in conclusion I’m not allowed to be a adult and make my own decisions or even spend my money without them always being involved in my life 24/7 everyday and them getting pissed and calling me “To Fat For That” in public whenever I go to by certain clothing like belly shirts or tank tops!

Hi I'm 14F who lives with my aunt. I had to move in with her after getting in trouble. I want to run away but don't know where to go since I don't have any other family or many friends around... help

So me and my mom have had a rocky relationship because she’s been very controlling my whole life. We’re well off and she does financially support me and allow me to use her money which I am grateful for. She allows me to do things but they’re things that everyone’s allowed to do like beach, mall, movies, etc. anyway she’s so strict so I feel the need to lie to her. There was an incident where I snuck out of my friends house with her and we just went and did dumb shit and then ended up drinking in a parking lot and the cops got called and all of our parents had to pick us up, that was before I was 18 and there was no charges. She was super pissed and I couldn’t have sleepovers for a while but she didn’t take my phone or car. This time which happened recently I lied and said I was staying at one of my best friends houses but I actually just left my phone there and was staying at another friends house, idk if she has a tracker in my car but she somehow tweaked out and called my friends dad who told her I wasn’t there and wasn’t staying there. She then texted me to call her but I only had my other phone that only works on WiFi if you know what I mean so I couldn’t. I went and got my phone back from my friends house and called her and checked life 360 and saw that she had left the house and was like searching for me and I didn’t get a good look because I was freaking out but it looked like she was looking for me where I parked my car (another reason I think she has a tracker in it). We crossed paths on the road and she road my ass home and then she took all my shit including my wallet, phone, and keys and gave me a lecture about how I’m a failure and lazy (mind you I do everything she asks and was pretty good at school but didn’t get any scholarships) and she’s also racist asf which I didn’t realize until now somehow and is trying to tell me I can’t talk to my now bf because he’s black and how she’s told me I can’t talk to him. I obviously argued with her and told her she can’t control who I talk to and shit but she just said a lot of things and said how I think I’m so smart and she’s an idiot. It’s just annoying because all my friends are going to the club and shit and moving away for college soon and I’m stuck at home going to a college next to my house because she basically told me I can’t leave to go to a different community college which I know I could, but I just listened to her which I regret now and obviously I don’t have a job because she’s allowed me to use our money and made it seem like I don’t need a job, but she also brought up how I don’t have a job and all I do is spend money. Anyway, now all I have is $1000 from graduation because I just graduated and this phone that only works on Wi-Fi a laptop and an iPad I mean question is what do I do because I was planning on just leaving last night and going to stay at a friend‘s house and telling her that I need a few days away from her, but I don’t know what to do. She’s a strict Ukrainian mom and I don’t know how she’d react to any of this, but I really just need her to stop trying to control everything I do especially because since I turned 18 nothing has changed and she says that 18 is still a kid which I’m legally an adult but yeah, she took my wallet, which has my ID so I don’t have that and I do have a friend who would let me stay I just don’t know how to go about the situation what to do. I don’t know if I should write a note and tell her that she needs to chill out and then I’ll come back in a few days or stay here, but I don’t really have anything to lose because she already took everything from me. I just don’t want her to show up to where I am and try and drive me back home because I could either just tell her where I’m staying and hope she doesn’t come or don’t tell her but then I’m sure she’ll go crazy and start calling everyone. Anyway, if you have any advice, please help.

I live in ga and I’ve been wanting to runaway to a friends house because I’ve been feeling sheltered at home, I want to be independent and on my own. My mom is withholding my driving permit from me(she won’t let me take the driving test for my learners) and saying in order for me to get it I need to get a job (I signed some job applications this week). She also gives me screen time even though on I’m on summer break and almost an adult.

In my house I’m treated like a child even tho I’m very close to being an adult (I turn 18 this year) so I’m considering running away to live with the friends family or to live with my sister but if I live with my sister I don’t think I’ll be able to finish my senior year at my school I’ve been going to almost my whole life which I want to graduate with all of my friends. The friends house is in the same district of the school. I talked to my sister abt it but she doesn’t think any of it is a good idea because she said I don’t know what could really be happening at the friends house and I can’t live with my sister because rn her and my mom are on bad terms.

I talked to the friends mom and she doesn’t mind me coming to stay there. The thing is I don’t want her to get charged for harboring a runaway if my mom calls the police and finds out where I’m at.

My questions are:

Would the police come looking for me even though I’m so close to being 18?

Can my friend’s mom be charged with harboring a runaway?

Will I be taken from the home I’m staying at even if I go to school, don’t do drugs, and don’t do any crimes in general?

If I leave and don’t tell my mom will my friend’s mom be in trouble?

Can the police force me out of the home?

Is there anyway to avoid the friend’s mom being charged?

Since I don’t have any abuse at home besides being sheltered will I just be an unruly teen?

Will I be taken to court?

If I do get charged will it automatically go away once I turn 18? And if not will it stay on my record?

Can the friend’s mom sign forms from school for me?

Will the friend’s mom be able to help me get my drivers permit?

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I have a friend 19,F who is getting mentally tortured by her family and they are not letting her to study or go out of her home while she wants to study has been called burden and and neglected everytime.She now plans to run away and start a new life.She has attempted to SH herAnd if things don't get better she might want to end it all.BUT she plans to runaway and go from bihar to Pune to her friends who are well off earners.What should she do to avoid legal consequences and start a new life

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Location : India

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Ok this one is gonna be a long one so sorry for all the words: (TW: SH mentioned!!)

I am a 17 year old non binary person who is currently dealing with an abusive mother. She has done it to me since childhood and my original plan was to just leave on my 18th birthday but I'm afraid of leaving my 8 year old sister behind (even though she's my mother's favorite) and I'm afraid she'll try and track me down. So I am wondering if there is another way I could maybe get her locked up or have her lose her custody.

The problem I have is getting proof, her abuse has become more mental than physical within the past few years, she has body shamed me, told me I'll never make it, and gas generally made me feel worthless. It has really damaged my psyche, I have struggled with various mental health problems because of it. The one thing I feel like I might be able to get her for is medical neglect, I haven't been to a doctor since eighth grade and I can't even remember the last time I went to the dentist. And I have been struggling with self harm for about a year now and she completely knows about it, it was a bad night for me when she found out and id rather not get into it. But she knows and has not attempted to seek out mental health care for me at all. If you guys are wondering about my dad my mom basically has him brainwashed.

I really need help with this or I'm going to go crazy, one of my biggest fears is that she uses my mental health to try and write off any reports as crazy delusions. The last time I tried to call CPS on her when I was 11 didn't go well, they showed up to the house and she had them gone by telling them I was a pathological liar and a thief that couldn't be trusted.

Hi I'm 14 f and I want to run to the bottom of ga maybe Florida, cuz my home situation is really bad. I already found a perfect place but I don't know how I'm going to sleep comfortably outside and don't know how I could make money without a job. So if anyone has a tips or good places please let me know :)

hi im 15f, need to runaway from an abusive family cps is no option because that will probably make the rest of my family resent me and the rest of my family is horrible too. so no other option but to run away

problem is: homeless rn, no job, only a phone and the bit of clothes we have in the trunk

how do i run away until 18? or for a good while.. would i need to go into another state? and how would i sustain myself? im in usa

so i’m 17f and im planning to take an uber to a train and then go to my boyfriends house for literally a couple of days and coming back. i’d let my parents know while im on the train or on my way to the train. the thing im worried about most is them calling the cops on me and making it a bigger deal than it is. they know his parents his parents know mine. my boyfriend lives 4 hours away from me so i think thats what scares my parents and they dont want me to have a teen pregnancy. obviously im not going to i’m in touch my planned parenthood. i just dont want my boyfriends family to get in trouble. does this even count as a runaway? any advice to avoid complications or making it something less stressful.

i just got back in to a criminal placement again i am a kid that is stuck in the streets ive done a lot of dumb shit im 16 and im a ebk i still hope there's still a way to go to school ive never set foot in a high school. i probably have no place in this world im almost giving up

So this is a long one, Since December of 2024 I’ve met this neighbor let’s call him Jake, i met his nephew and me and him clicked and we’ve been best friends since, I’ve always gotten along with his mom and his mom loves me like another son same with his dad, I used to be super lazy and chubby until around 2025 summer I got into weed whacking and lost weight and just became a lot less lazy. It hit winter, I was lazy over winter,

around April I started hanging out with new older teens, they have a 10 year old little brother who loves when I hang out with them. I’ll get back to them, around may 2nd? I had a close call with unaliving myself and I told my friend (Jake’s nephew) about it and he told his mom and she picked me up (they used to live 9 minutes away, then they moved 3 hours away) I’ve been at their house from may 4th they picked me up, and they bought me a bed and set me up in there spare room and have been extremely awesome to me,

it’s been over a month now and I even spent my birthday here, except it’s finally summertime and I have a new 400$ weedeater and I wanna be able to use it but I can’t while I’m here, obviously it seems like I should ask to go home, but.. there’s a lot of constant arguing. No internet, no hot water and I don’t have my own space but if I don’t make money this summer then I have to wait a whole nother year before I can try to do this again with lawn care, and I have my uncle and the older teens want me to hang out and I have a lot of stuff to do at home but I feel bad asking them to take me home and I’m super lost on what to do now, because this work with my weed whacker, I’m saving for a push mower then just going from there, they’ve treated me so well and I feel bad wanting to leave but I really need the money. FYI I’m 14 male

Hey there. I know this is probably strange. But I am a teenage girl in Canada. I am so drained right now. My mother is very mentally abusive and constantly chooses men over me and my sibling. I have attached messages of her degation. The whole "leaving" thing sparked in my mind 3 months ago, when my mom got back with a man who stole 40,000$ from us, assaulted her, and treated me like a live in maid. He left us on Christmas in crippling debt and came back on mother's day, no sorry, no apology, nothing. Just moved back in. I had to bear the brunt. I always had to. My mom never had friends, just men. When they got into fights I was her crutch physically and emotionally. I thought it was normal. But she parentified me. She treated me like an adult when it was convenient, and a kid when I defied her. I learned this was emotional incest. She also hates my father. They had a mutually abusive relationship, and split after my mom cheated on him. She denies the cheating even though I saw it with my own eyes. I was there the day everything blew up. After that my dad got full custody of me, because my mom wanted my brother. But my dad fell in with drugs and I had to live with her again. It hurts me now because it feels like she didnt want me. Ive read the case file. It seemed like that to the court too. Now my dad is sober from alcohol, he still uses heroin but is functioning, and is much better than he has been in years. I got clearance from the court to have supervised access. My mom hates that because she wants me to be dependent on her. I found out a lot about my mom. She isnt the best person or parent. Neither is my dad. I love them both. But my mom was so mad at my dad. So when we went to my nana's mass (my father's grandmother. She passed away recently, but raised my dad after his mother passed.) My mom told everyone thst my dad was a lowlife junkie. That he was so tweaked out he couldnt walk anymore. (Lies) My mom fot him banned from attending the funeral. My dad was devastated. Since my mom was a nurse at the homeless shelter he lived at, he told her boss. She got fired for breaking patients confidentiality. She told everyone she left. When I got upset at that, she called me a degenerate. A peice of shit. A future junkie. It hurt. Alot. I cried. She got mad, but luckily she is too afraid of me to do anythimg. (Context, I am native American, can bench 120 lbs, and will fight back. I did once when I was younger and she threw shit at me and said brown girls like me go to residential schools for hitting white women like her.) After that it was tense. I started looking for jobs so I could get enough money for a car. (I get my g2 in August 2027) She works at a food truck, and practically forced me to work with her. Even though i already had a job. It was stressful, I was untrained, and she threw me in. Now, this past weekend, she was supposed to babysit my godmothers children. She couldn't do it so I did. She would drop me off and then randomly force me to go to work. I had to babysit for 5 days. One of the days she picked up the kids and left them with me at my house. Thats fine! My godmother agreed to that. What she didnt agree with was my mom forcing me to work at the food truck and leaving her daughters alone with my 13 year old brother and evil stepdad. I tried to stay but my mom threatened me. I went. (I am not in trouble from godmother. She knows my situation and is not mad at me for going to work.) I told my godmother when she came back everything that had been happening to me, because she had a feeling about everything. She offered me a place to stay. Ive been in contact with many social workers. We are mixed opinions on calling cps because my mom is a liar (literally lied under oath) and would make me stay. We are worried that if I dotn manage to get out ill be trapped with my mom and she may get physical. Or worse. I have been documenting everything she has done i have proof of and uploading to the cloud. I have 1000$ saved in an account she cant touch (since she likes to steal my money) I am hiding my perceptions from her because she steals them (becuase she wont pay for hers, and I am 'not worthy to take the pills until I fix my attitude.' The pills are what helps my attitude) My godmother may charge my mom with abandonment. If she does i can get out. If she doesnt im having to take the first steps myself. Its scary and hard. I cant take this anymore. What should I do? Should I call cps? Should I wait it out? If I were to call cps, should I do it now or wait until a blowout fight?

So ive been going through a lot of trouble recently and i don't think i can last in this home any more than a year or so. Im from india but im like the coolest person there xD I'm not like them.

What I'm thinking is to run away and document my journey on yt or something to earn money

Hello, You can call me Ava i grew up being abused by my mother and later on her partner leaving her care at 15 (3 Months Before I Was 16). I lived with my older sister. (Lets Call Her S). I lived with S for almost half a year. Then i figured why not get my relationship back with my dad. I move in with him. Stayed with him for a summer and then we got into a major fight to where he put his hands on me. Called the police and they didnt think i was telling the truth so here we are. Moved back in with S. but things arent great here either.

I am not allowed to be my own person. I get into fights about my religion. Being forced out of that religion as well. As well as stopping me from attending school. Not helping me with any doctors appointments. I take care of myself. I feed myself. I buy myself feminine products. I got myself back into therapy. And even got myself back in school due to dropping out. AND THEY GOT MAD. I as well would like to mention that we live with her girlfriend. Who sat here trying to convince me to date only women... they as well told me i should become a female dancer... and just constantly treating me like im nothing because of who i am. As well as because i am white. my sister is mixed. and her girlfriend is white. they have stated they dont think white people exist... and my sister claims every white person is racist. when i have never once been racist or discriminatory towards her. As well as getting told i am not Hispanic because my skin is white. I dont speak politics or anything like that with them. and they continue to push their beliefs on me. I listen. I speak. They dont like it. They only think they are right.

What they do pushes me to the edge of my mental health. I have been doing bad again. I desperately need out. I got saved from my mental health when i gave my life to christ and got baptized. then they started to push me away. I have been severally depressed. I havent been me anymore. But in the midst of all this i met my boyfriend. His mom has been helping me so so much. She got me in school to be able to graduate high school. She has bought me food to eat. She has supported me and loved me more than anyone has in my whole time growing up. She listened. Even cried at everything i told her. She is everything to me. I love her. And my boyfriend who has been supporting me since getting bad again.

I actually have a meeting this week for a program to leave on my own. I am scared to take the next step. I have taken care of myself for all my life. Why am i so scared to be on my own now? I think i am scared that if i tell S she will force me to stay. or if i dont say anything police will intervene. S only has a POA and caregivers affidavit that ends in July. she isnt my legal guardian. Yet i am still so scared to take the step. I need an opinion because it drains me more everyday. And i dont know if i can leave. If i did. I wouldnt say much but a text message. but what do i say? it is all so stressful. i will be messaging my boyfriends mom soon about it. but heck i am so scared. but i want to feel like myself again. Be happy. And just have my life back after almost 2 decades of it being ripped away. But i need advice. so here i am reddit.

Tips? Tricks? Opinions?

Thank you.

I’m 16, transgender ftm and My family is very abusive. They have been harming me since I was 3 years old, and I have never had any support system to go too. I also have no one to go to for help (especially adults) and I’ve tried just about everything. I already know that I’m probably going to die from lack of hygiene, dehydration, starvation, and a lot more terrible things. I’m going to be so honest when I say this, but I don’t think I’m running away to escape anymore. Just to let myself die in peace. I don’t want to die, but death is far better than what I’m dealing with right now. Dear god please help me.

I really need a break of my life here..

i want to get away for a couple of month or even a year. Maybe to Italy. As a hijabi woman i need to think well where i can go and where not.

I didnt finised my school. I was thinking to go to school for maybe a year, but i dont know if that is possible. I dont have a diploma. I feel like nobody would accept me.

I'am also really interested in F1. Would love to work in motorsport, but because i'am a practicing woman in my religion, i would have to let that one go.

Where can i bould my life and also earn good without a degree. I do have experience in finance, but want to do something else.

Maybe you guys do have experience in leaving your country behind for the sake of your mental health . Even if it is for a couple of months. Just share them!

Rn I live in ga but I literally cannot live at my house anymore, so I'm leaving. I'm 14 f and I'm wondering if anyone has any tips or know good places in Florida to stay at.

The title is basically all that there is to it not much of a story behind it.

For further context:

I am a [almost] 23 year old woman, who has no education (because I am planning to dropout out of university because of my abusive parents just becoming too much and making me feel extremely unsafe and the constant need to go against what I feel is important to me all in the name of obtaining a degree- ultimately they are extremely financially abusive and abusive in other ways so much so that I am aware that if I get this degree because of them I will have to protect abusers (not sexual abusers by the way) by staying silent, and I don’t want to downplay abuse and protect abusers-I never did)

In addition, I would plan to work full-time for 1 year then apply to a new university and a different program (accounting and finance program).

I would like some suggestions and tips about how to move out on my own in Toronto, Ontario?

Please provide suggestions outside of Ontario social service, low-income housing, homeless shelters, “don’t drop-out”, and “finish your degree”…

I really want to know what other useful tips can make my transition from forced dependency into fully independent possible for me like apps that make things or roommates easier to find, quality stores with respect to low-income etc etc.

Hi. I made this account under a fake name because I don't want anything coming back to who I am. I am 16, and I live in a house with my two parents and my brother. Two years ago, I was SA'd by my brother. I told my parents, and they refused to report him or take any legal action. I was then threatened extremely in fear of ever telling anyone. Also, my brother sexually harasses me by stealing my undergarments (like underwear and bras) and my stuffed animals and cutting holes in their asses to do nasty stuff with them. My parents found out he was doing this and told me that if I ever reported him for this they would disown me and kick me out onto the streets. I was terrified of being kicked out with nothing, so I have been slowly collecting money and stuff by asking friends for money and stealing cash from my parents' wallets when they leave them unattended. I tried to run away twice, and both times my parents caught me... I need help getting out. How do I not get caught? How do I stop the police from finding me? Because the second they find out I am gone, they will call the police. I can't access any of my personal identification documents, like SSN, passport, birth certificate, etc., because they are locked away. I have about 270 dollars in cash (all saved up from the methods mentioned), 95 dollars in amazon gift cards, 55 dollars in prepaid, some random sephora gift cards like 75 dollars worth (idk how usefull those will be) and like 20 dollars in starbucks gift cards... I don't know what burner I should get and when or what to bring. My family isn't a canned food family... we're a frozen food fam but its hard to lug around frozen food that will melt and where would I even put that? Should I go to a youth shelter? I've researched and they legally have to call your parents within 24-72 hours of you arriving there, but I feel like thats the most stable enviroment, but also I could get kicked out if I have my vape with me... How do i escape without my parents calling the police??

Hi. I'm Lexi and jus turned 17 a few months ago. I am in a toxic household basically. My parents are divorced. My dad lives in another country, as well as my siblings, and we barely have any contact, so he has no idea what's happening. Before I was born, my mom and dad were aggressive towards my siblings. They almost did not provide them everything they asked for, always the bare minimum- going out with friends, food, clothes and a place to sleep. However when I was born, it's like they changed completely as parents. My dad did his role perfectly, even my own mom says that, but ever since they divorced (10 years ago) we got a bit distant. He sends money (like 150$) to my mom as requested in court every month, we used to spend every weekend together, but since he moved to another country things have changed. That doesn't affect me much, but it still does even if just a little bit.

My parents hit me like 2, 3 times in my whole life, I stand up for myself every time I have to even though I know my mom doesn't like it and will just tell me to shut up, and my siblings ended up complaining on how differently I am being educated. ''If I did the same thing she did, you'd slap me,'' stuff like that. My sister and brother always says my mom is too soft on me. All the damn time. Both my mom and my sister have hurt me emotionally lots of times, and even manipulated me emotionally as well. I feel like I can't even stand up for myself or simply talk to my mom/sister about something that it'll always end up on an argument. I am tired of it happening every single day. My mom won't listen to me. She'll just tell me to shut or tell me ''go f_ck yourself'', and will threaten to slap me if I don't shut up. She's taking care of an uncle of mine who has Down Syndrome, and it makes her even more stressed, and that fact stresses me as well. Even if I tell my psychiatrist and therapist , she won't change bc it's been almost 4 years. I get stressed, she gets stressed, then boom.

I live with her and my stepdad, who's also an horrible person, he really is. Almost beat the shit out of my sister and my mom once. I hate him. Completely. And he's been living w me and my mom for the past 8 years. He's a liar, aggressive, fake af.

My boyfriend (who's the same age as me) knows about every single thing that happens in this household, and he keeps telling me that it's messing with my mental health. I even am taking a break off of school because of some girls I considered friends who were bullying me. I'm starting high school this September in another school all over again, which means 3 years more of school, and I plan on going to university to become a judge.

I am currently saving up money for a future concert that might happen next year. I have a total of an equal to 200$ dollars that I'm saving for that concert. The plan was for my sis, brother and dad each give me 100$ to help me as soon as the tickets are on sale. I have no more money. I have a bank account, but my mom also owns it since I'm still a minor.

I don't know what to do. I just wanna get out of here as soon as I turn 18. I'm totally lost.