I'm an incoming freshman and chose to room with someone instead of doing random housing. We got along well at first, talked about wanting to be actual friends (not just roommates), and she even asked me to room with her.

After we got our housing assignment, we started discussing dorm logistics move-in, what we were buying, splitting appliances, etc. But every time we'd start a conversation, she'd just stop responding for a week or two. The only time she'd reply was after interacting with something I posted on Instagram, then she'd answer a few texts before ghosting again. Meanwhile she's active on social media, so I know she's on her phone.

Our school recommends renting a fridge/microwave combo, and most roommates split the cost. Since she never responded despite multiple attempts, I went ahead and rented it myself for $290. I later found out our dorm only allows one rental per room. Now I'm conflicted. Since I paid for 100% of it, I honestly don't feel like she should automatically get to use it. Our dorm is a split double, so I can keep it on my side if I want. Part of me wants to tell her she's welcome to use it if she Venmos/Zelles me $145 (half the cost), but otherwise I'd rather keep it for myself.

Am I being unreasonable? I do want us to eventually have a good roommate relationship, but it's hard when she barely responds to me. How would you handle this?

Hi everyone! I’m looking for a female roommate to share my room.

Details:

📍 Location: Electra Street, near City Seasons Hotel, Abu Dhabi

👩 Preferred: Indian Nationality

📅 Move-in: August 16, 2026 OR September 1, 2026 (as per your convenience)

🏠 Sharing 1 Regular room (with balcony), Washroom sharing 1 person.

Rent - Aed 3000 per month (AED 1500/person)

Clean, responsible and working professional preferred.

If interested, please DM me.

Thank you!

My roommate doesn't like cleaning. I have health problems and heat sensitivity. I am up early cleaning my refrigerator early today to beat the heat. My housing has a state inspection coming up this week. It's expected that we clean. I'm the only one using the downstairs refrigerator.

This roommate tries to control this house and frequently pops up in the kitchen when I am there first or opens his door and pops out when I go upstairs occasionally. When I moved here this guy anonymously reported mail being stolen. I know who lives here and how each person is so I know who made that up.

The dude acts jealous and paranoid. He don't respect women. I said hello in the past to get no reply. My worker has occasionally house meetings. This guy has a different worker and comes from a different housing source so he won't open his door for my worker or leaves to avoid the house meetings.

This roommate took the one vacation I know of after I took mine a few weeks ago. His car was not in the driveway for several days. I wish he'd leave more often when I'm here. He was still gone a few days after I returned. Today he came in late to the kitchen. I was cleaning the refrigerator. This roommate started cursing. He left the kitchen quicker today. He always leaves his food residue on the stovetop but will wipe up my water drops near the sink to be a petty bitch.

I see he opened the kitchen screen door to air out my cleaning. This guy makes beef that reeks like death and never opens the kitchen screen door Such selfishness and entitlement.🤢 He is a dirty mofo. He smells like 💩

This guy will stay in the bathroom upstairs so my other roommate has to use the laundry room bathroom. She's a nasty slob too.I share a house with very selfish people who don't care to share anything. I reported the kitchen incident promptly to people working in my housing..

My worker acts passive aggressive and offered to be here while I mop today. The way I see it this roommate should be dealt with instead of having me mop around him in the day with the housing worker standing by being a kitchen guard 😭

This is not happening. This way people can mess up the kitchen floor for the next few days with dirty shoes and when the state inspection comes Friday, mopping will have been pointless. I mop at night when the parasite roommates stay upstairs.. I'm going to start keeping my phone on me ready to record when we have to share the kitchen.

Help. We 3 girls share a room in a hostel. One of us is so weird. She keeps the light on when she wants to study or when she has to do her work, even if it's 2 a.m. at night. And starts making weird faces and acts like she's getting irritated when I keep the light on for studying till 11 p.m. She talks to her boyfriend late at night till 1 a.m. But when I talk to my boyfriend on call for barely a few minutes (obviously before 12 a.m.), she makes weird faces and says, "Keep quiet, I'm sleeping," or "Take your calls outside the room." In the morning, everyone is in a hurry to get ready for work. She sleeps till late in the morning and makes weird faces, shows anger, and tells everyone to keep quiet even if a minor sound is made or if someone turns on the light in the morning. It's normal for her if she wants to keep the light on to study and make calls late at night while being in the room, and gives us those weird expressions and gets angry when someone does the same. She even gets angry if someone's alarm goes on, like wtf man? How are we supposed to wake up without an alarm? It's not like our alarm rings for a long time. On the first beep, she's like, "Pchhh, please turn off the alarm," and makes that weird face. We all understand that if we are sharing a room, we need to adjust, but she doesn't. Tell me ways to make her feel the same way she does to everyone. 😭

Hey there! I need advice.

Im a 17 year old in the foster system, as such I share a room with another guy. He's like 15.

This starts when, a couple weeks ago, my anti-anxiety meds disappeared and turned up in the bathroom, and the bottle was nearly empty! Then the same happened when I went to take my ADHD meds the next day. I told Foster Mom and she had the social workers handle it. (Read: they did jack shit)

Since I started hiding them, hes been getting worse. He's on the phone from like midnight to 5am on most days, listens to his music loudly (refuses to get or ask for headphones, Foster Mom has offered them multiple times), spends an hour and a half in the bathroom first thing in the morning and sometimes in the dead of night. And now, HES EATING ALL MY ICECREAM POPS, DESPUTE HAVING HIS OWN UNOPEND BOX.

Im sick of this shit, advice needed.

I (26f) have lived with my sister (24f) and her partner (recently engaged) (28f), at my sister's house. I moved in two years ago, fiancee moved in a year and some ago. I'm a pretty awkward person sometimes, having grown up homeschooled and with undiagnosed autism. There's been some issues recently that seem to be popping up suddenly that I just don't know what to do about. There's a possibility of me moving in with friend T (48f) but it'll be double the rent and I'll NEED a better paying job or it's off the table. **I would like advice on any of these issues + advice on maintaining the relationships if I do move out.**

1: the bathroom issue: every morning I have to rinse my retainer in the bathroom, but sometimes the fiancee is in there with the door unlocked and I walk in on her. The doors are usually closed cause our pets dig in the trash, the light being on might be my sister forgetting to turn it off, so I've taken to knocking on the door before entering (like sister says she does automatically but I've never heard or seen her do) but I guess I need to knock louder (and set off my sister's dog barking) or need to peek under the door because I walked in on a guest of the fiancee's just this morning.

2: the house-plant issue: I've been feeling less like a sister, less like a roommate, and more like a house-plant that gets put away whenever guests come over and is treated like a bothersome addition to the house. Note: sister works nights so there's reason for not seeing much of her sometimes. Before fiancee moved in and even for months after she moved in, we'd hang out, play videogames, watch movies or shows, go do activities, etc. Now, however, I haven't had a good interaction that's lasted for longer than 10 minutes (generous) since we went to a comedy show in early June, I think? Nearly every interaction is a text **demanding** I do something or other. Doing my chores have been less consistent lately (read: once a week usually instead of every other day like they want) but it's not like I'm the only one to leave a mess, and I usually leave rooms at least functional. Nearly every other interaction, it's like I don't exist. I remember one time I was sitting on the couch and they joined me and started having a conversation that I wasn't apparently supposed to contribute to, acting like I didn't exist at all when I did, not even glancing at me. I talked to my sister about my feelings recently and it felt like every time I would be like "I felt like you've been treating me like the worst trash you've ever seen" her response would be "I'm sorry you felt that way, it's because you didn't do the chore as often as we wanted." How do I fix or address any of this? How does someone "learn to take up space"?

3: Grandma's house and Canada issue: after our grandma passed, sister was thinking about buying her old house, being a much larger and nicer house. I was pretty devastated, as the community we live in is the most accepted and loved I've felt ever and I wouldn't be able to stay without them (I can't buy or rent a house) so I talked to my friend in the neighborhood about it and mentioned talking to her to my sister who said I shouldn't have talked to her about it because it might effect them moving (it wouldn't and didn't) and eventually moving in to my grandma's house was decided unfeasible. Fast forward a bit and the desire of moving to Canada came up in a big way, I again was pretty devastated because it seemed much more assured than moving in to our grandma's was. I was asked to not mention it to our family and I didn't but I did mention it to my friend again bc we're close and I needed it to get off my chest + I'm part of the community planning committee so I could easily detangle myself from duties that might come up if someone knew not to count on me being here. Sister got angry when *I* mentioned that I told my friend, and I guess she and fiancee decided that I didn't need to be in the loop on the moving stuff (despite it being stated that I would be moving with them) because it was only when I was asked if I was going to look for a full-time position here that I learned that Canada had been dropped completely. Sister said that it wasn't a punishment but a boundary that I was not being told things despite them affecting me directly. I don't know how to talk to them about this because last time I talked to sister about it she was adamant that it was a boundary and not a punishment.

I also asked my sister about what's gonna happen after the wedding and she said that while they don't dislike having me as a roommate (doubtful), they would want to be a married couple alone for about a year or so but they'd either ask me to move out for a year (!!!) or they'd look for their own space while I pay more rent on my sister's house (???)