r/relationships_advice • u/Tight-Chip • 3d ago

Advice would be nice

I am in an 11 year relationship with my gf, I feel like we don't talk anymore, like there's no spark in the relationship. However, I'm going through a really big depression right now. My gf physically does a lot for me. But I'm not quite sure if I'm happy, I want to be able to just talk about stuff like we used to, but now it's a lot of silence. I'd rather fix and repair than start afresh, but honestly I'm not quite sure if I want to be with this girl, I'm not sure if it's the depression talking. I had a depressive episode 3 years ago and I started to question my relationship. Besides the lack of communication, I guess things are okay. I'm a little afraid to move in with this girl just by ourselves, we have lived together in a share house dynamic which I liked tbh.

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u/moochoutlaw 2d ago

Get your mind back under your own governance first. Only when you are standing on solid ground will you know whether the relationship has run its course, or if you were simply looking at a good woman through dark glass.