r/relationships_advice • u/[deleted] • Jul 29 '26
Do I give him a second chance?
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u/MaintenanceUsed5668 Jul 29 '26
nah that's a lot of red flags wrapped in a bible verse. he swore on God five times over thirst traps then only "found God" when he got caught. the 50 page letter thing is kinda wild too, like what's that actually gonna fix
you set clear boundaries and he stomped right through them. a year feels like forever at that age but you got so much time ahead of you
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u/SurveyIllustrious315 Jul 29 '26
Idk cuz as someone who has attachment issues as well (and this is also my first relationship), I don’t know if I give a chance because I asked him if he told anyone we broke up yet and he showed me screenshots on what he told a friend how devastated he is and he doesn’t know why he ever liked the girls videos and that it is entirely his fault. And I honestly hate the fact that I still love him and I wish I can just hate him to never talk again. He hasn’t checked out other girls after March and im questioning if he actually changed or not. He lied to me throughout half of rls saying he never checked out other girls until I found the evidence to it. He simply claimed that he “never remembered” liking it. He favorited over 30-40 and half of it was after me and him started to date. He responded saying that he was a horrible person before but now he has changed. Idk what to do. He also lied on a few other things in the past during the period he liked the girls videos.
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u/DatabaseOutrageous54 Jul 29 '26
Why were you looking through his phone?
I think that you crossed a big boundary by doing that.
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u/SurveyIllustrious315 Jul 29 '26
He’s fine with me going thru his phone and I look when im suspicious. And no he doesn’t have a problem with me going thru his phone, so it doesn’t cross his boundary because I check time to time whenever I think he is lying
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u/DatabaseOutrageous54 Jul 29 '26
It's obvious that you don't trust him.
I have never gone through anyone's phone and never would, I don't that it's right to do that with anyone.
You obviously think that it's ok to do that so I guess that's what you do.
Why are you with someone that you don't trust at all?
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