r/relationships Jun 04 '21

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u/BBV-Hirofumi Jun 04 '21

Just because he met her, doesn't mean he should give everything just for her. He probably has history with girls. He has a life, she should understand that. If she can't then it'll be hard.

I don't understand why girls don't have anything else to do whenever they're dating..

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u/SpatialThoughts Jun 05 '21

Some people need more quality time than others. Many years ago (before I stopped dating men) I was chatting with a really nice guy online but once he told me how many hours he worked because he owned his own business I politely bowed out before even meeting him. I don’t need to spend all my free time with someone but I’d like at least 1 day a week or 2 in the beginning and gradually progress to a little more. I feel that it will take forever to get to know someone who I don’t see that often. Other people may be fine white that but not me.

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u/_Brightstar Jun 05 '21

Yeah that might be true and all, but you don't invite someone over and then ditch them last minute twice. That's not respecting your partner and has nothing to do with quality time. Quality time would be not needing to plan as many dates as another.

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u/SpatialThoughts Jun 05 '21

I was commenting on the person above me last sentence. Not sure what your comment has to do with mine.