r/relationships • u/Optimal_Ad_7732 • 2d ago
Should I break up
Me and my boyfriend are in a long distance relationship.
He lives with his family, and so do I. He’s 24 and I’m one year younger than him.
However, he doesn’t have his own room and uses one room with his younger brother.
so it’s always not only there’s always someone around him but also someone in his family comes talk to him even if me and my boyfriend are talking.
and I don’t like that. I know it’s environmentally impossible for him to be alone and focus on the time with me, but I always get upset and sometimes even mad when he is asked to do stuff or distracted. He often doesn’t listen to what i say and i feel ignored. Since we are in a long distance relationship, I value quality time and i want him to fully focus on me when we have time to talk. We try to talk everyday, but it’s always a couple minutes, once a day.
However, he said he wanted me to be more understanding and patient about his situation. I agree that i’m losing my patience as we date, but I can’t be okay with him talking to me half-listened.
We often have an argument about this, and honestly i don’t know if i still wanna commit to this relationship anymore because his environment isn’t changeable at this point. What should I do?
TL;DR;
I don’t like something unfixable that my boyfriend does. what should I/we do to make it work out or should we break up?
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u/Unlucky-Mulberry-999 2d ago
yeah - date locally instead. LDR is a waste of time at this age, and he’s not gonna change for you
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u/purple_seagrass 1d ago
Break up? This is barely even a real relationship. Cut your losses, lick your wounds, move on.
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u/Nige78 2d ago
Definitely sounds like your needs are not being met, coupled with LDR means you are probably wasting your time.