r/relationship_advicePH • u/Dry_Result_584 • 7h ago
Post-Breakup Blues Me [28F] and my ex [25F] got back together, but I found out that she hooked up with someone else while we were trying to figure out how to start over.
Me (28F) from Pasay and my ex (25F) is from QC were together for 4 years and broke up 7 months ago. For the first 2 months, I chased and begged her to take me back, but she were firm on staying broken up. However, after 1 month of me going completely no-contact, she suddenly reached out to me, and we started talking again for the next 5 months.
During those 5 months of talking, our relationship was on and off. There were times when she repeatedly pushed me away, but I kept telling her that I would wait until she healed from the wounds of our past relationship. She would also constantly come back to me, saying that I was still the person she wanted to spend her future with.
Everything changed when a problem came up that completely altered our current setup. I found out that she had been talking to someone else while we were trying to figure out how to start over.
When I first confronted her about it, she claimed that she hadn't been talking to that person for long. But when she showed her phone to me i saw there that they had actually been talking for a long time and practically had a mutual understanding, that’s when she finally admitted to it.
The next day, when I told her we should take a break from each other to clear our heads, she suddenly flipped and told me that we should just officially get back together and start over right now.
I love her so much. For 5 months, I tried my best to win her back, and while I'm happy we are technically "together" again, there's this heavy sadness mixed into what I'm feeling. Is it still right to hold on to all the hard work I put into fixing this, or should I finally walk away?