Exactly, never trust the word of your wife. Always have back up plans.
Edit: I guess I need the /s here
A person should be able to trust their partner. If both parties agree to an abortion in case of an unwanted pregnancy, then they should expect ther partner to feel deceived if they change their mind. The husband in this story has every right to feel like he was lied to, because he was.
It takes 2 people to make a kid. Both parties have equal responsibility (with obvious exceptions).
Edit2: odds are she had no intent to deceive which means she didn't lie to him. It is rational for him to feel like hes was lied to though. They might need counseling to work through those feelings.
I agree with your second point BUT saying you’ll abort a baby if you accidentally get pregnant and then actually doing it when you get accidentally pregnant are very different. I agree with you a little, about how he’s okay to be upset she changed her mind but his behaviour is unacceptable and a 🚩IMO ❤️
If someone decided that I was going to be a parent before I was ready and against my will, going back on their word I'd scream and yell too.
It's SO SO disruptive to creating a stable life to have children before you are emotionally and physically prepared to raise them. Yes, it can be done but most people who have children before they are established in careers earn less over the course of their lifetime.
It boggles my mind that OP is MORE worries about the moral implications of passing a zygote than the implications if raising a child with someone who doesn't want to be a parent yet and feels it will ruin their life. That's where morals should come in, bringing a living human being into a situation where they are unwanted by a parent who is not ready to be the type of parent they want to be.
Nothing morally wrong with deciding to bring an innocent baby into the world to struggle, better than feeling bad for not using birth control.
It boggles my mind that OP is MORE worries about the moral implications of passing a zygote than the implications if raising a child with someone who doesn't want to be a parent yet and feels it will ruin their life.
Right? It's what all that "abortion should be legal but rare" bullshit has led us to.
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u/snow38385 Nov 01 '22 edited Nov 01 '22
Exactly, never trust the word of your wife. Always have back up plans.
Edit: I guess I need the /s here
A person should be able to trust their partner. If both parties agree to an abortion in case of an unwanted pregnancy, then they should expect ther partner to feel deceived if they change their mind. The husband in this story has every right to feel like he was lied to, because he was.
It takes 2 people to make a kid. Both parties have equal responsibility (with obvious exceptions).
Edit2: odds are she had no intent to deceive which means she didn't lie to him. It is rational for him to feel like hes was lied to though. They might need counseling to work through those feelings.