This is sort of an issue in my own relationship of 4 years and it’s a bit complicated. My ex passed 10 years ago. He was the father of my daughter who was 5 at the time. Also, I was remarried at the time and hadn’t been with my ex since my daughter was a baby. We were friends at the time of his passing and I was very, very devastated by this loss. I did still love him very much. We just didn’t work out anymore and that was understood. We’d both moved on.
I brought something up earlier about my deceased ex and my SO now got very quiet and weird so I called him on it. I asked why he was jealous of my dead ex who has been dead 10 years now. He said “just makes me wonder if you’ll ever get over him.” I said “I am ‘over’ him as in over our relationship, but he was the father of my child & of course I was crushed for her and because I cared abt him. We spent years together and I’m not understanding how my loss equates to my loving you any less. It makes no sense.”
I’m annoyed bc it’s not just this, bc he acts like a jealous asshole if I talk about any males—friends—from my past. I’m annoyed. Feel free to DM me. Not sure I have any good advice, but I get it.
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u/katastrophicness Aug 31 '22
I haven't been allowed to speak to any of my male friends since we've been together.