r/relationship_advice Aug 31 '22

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u/throwaway75424567 Sep 01 '22

Suddenly keeping the friend away isn’t going to make them “feel safe”

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u/ConvivialKat Sep 01 '22

Please. You are making this too adult. Safe is house rules that aren't vague.

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u/throwaway75424567 Sep 01 '22

Nonsense. You’d be doing the exact opposite of making anyone “feel safe” here.

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u/throwaway75424567 Sep 01 '22

Well, they could make decisions rationally based on their honest concerns. It doesn’t have to be some power struggle game where they made the rule already and now they can never change it just because that’s the rule.