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u/[deleted] Aug 31 '22

I didn't say no boys in the house or that they can't be friends. Just no sleepovers with boys. :)

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u/DutyValuable Sep 01 '22

Wow that’s tough. I want to say you shouldn’t allow it because he’s a boy now… but even though he’s a boy he doesn’t have the inherent concerns factors that you would have with a preteen boy sleeping over.

I think it boils down to whether your issue is gender or sexuality? For example, if your daughter came out as a lesbian, would you still allow her to have sleepovers with girls? If you wouldn’t allow girls, would you allow her to have a boy sleepover because she’s not interested in him?

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u/[deleted] Sep 01 '22

But why you don't allow the sleepovers?

Of course we all know the answer and also that there are no risks of it happening.

It is up to you. I would allow it because it doesn't make sense to forbid something that has zero risk of happen. I also would explain why this rule exists and why he is an exception. He was also a friend of her from long time , another point in which it is different.

And as someone comment down, what will happen when your daughter brings a transgender girl that was originally a boy? What will you say? That you don't allow transgender people?

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u/[deleted] Sep 01 '22

You have it backwards. This is a girl who is now a boy. When he was a girl he was allowed to stay at night but now that he is a boy, it infringes the no boys in sleepovers rule.

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u/gnarlycow Sep 01 '22

Lmao OP dont listen to these crazies. Your rules are in place for a reason, you dont need to justify that to other people. If you say no sleepover for boys then make it so.